社会焦虑:光谱从害羞到逃避型

嗨,山脉,
你的信息是惊人的。有很多的了解你自己和你的世界(学校、雷竞技是骗人的同学、家庭)。你反思的能力是什么导致你困难,想想在这个水平表明情报,体贴,成熟。这是一个巨大的一部分,让人有弹性,能够茁壮成长,尽管问题,甚至在高中之类的社交焦虑症。当我做你的医生的建议思考咨询是一个很好的人,我也认为现在可能不适合你。所以不要觉得你“应该”去辅导员。因为你的洞察力和智力水平的沟通,你可以考虑阅读疗法雷竞技是骗人的,治疗的过程,通过阅读增长。你的图书馆可能有关于社会焦虑的书,希望图书馆有书专门为青少年。关于沟通的书是伟大的,因为他们可以帮助您开发一对一的谈话技巧。几本书调查:害羞和社交焦虑青少年工作簿:认知行为治疗和行为技能帮助您构建社会信心珍妮弗·香农LMFT和道格·香农(注:我爱行动,接受和承诺,削减疗法和认知行为治疗(CBT)是伟大的社会焦虑),微笑和成功的青少年Kirt Manecke,除了发短信:面对面交流的艺术为青少年Debra罚款。 (A note about this one. Personally, I find the title and description a bit off-putting, as if the book is written to "straighten kids these days out." :) Looking beyond that, the content of the book seems good.) These are just a few examples. If you like the idea of finding books to help you discover how to rise above social anxiety, you'll discover that there are many different choices available. Social anxiety can be terrible (as if adolescence and high school weren't challenging enough!), but you can grow past it.

你好阿依莎,
我非常高兴你的评论。通过阅读文章,质疑和评论,你是积极实现自己的幸福和快乐。我很高兴回答,但请知道这不会是诊断。我永远不会试图基于小快照你共享。你有这么多比问题你处理!
确实有不同程度的社会焦虑。此外,虽然有共同的社会焦虑的症状,这是一个非常个性化的障碍。是什么样的一个人是不同的比为别人是什么样子。因此,尽管有些人也与社会焦虑、恐慌、焦虑发作别人不。不需要恐慌的社会焦虑。很多事情你描述匹配社会焦虑,但是,这是不可能的(不明智)在线诊断。一些事情被认为是当辅导员/心理学家或精神病学家做出诊断任何心理健康问题有持续的时间。在你的情况下,它是有意义的,这是过去一年更糟。你也许是害羞,因为你是一个孩子,但如果没有扰乱你的生活或与其他事情发生,这很可能是气质——从来没有标签“好”或“坏”。)因为现在是更糟的是,它是可能的,你可能会经历某种程度的社会焦虑症。 Another thing that is considered when deciding if symptoms are part of a disorder is how much they disrupt and limit someone's life. The more disruptive or disabling the symptoms are, the more they point to a disorder. One other thing that should be considered (not all professionals take this into consideration, but many do) is development/stage of life. How old someone is and where they are developmentally does have an impact on mental health. Adolescence is a time of great change and discovery. Friends and peers become increasingly important, but because nearly every teenager is self-conscious (many don't admit it, but don't let that fool you), it can make social interaction difficult. If the awkwardness and discomfort continues, though, and even gets worse, and if it severely limits what someone does, then it could be social anxiety. Social anxiety can cause physical symptoms such as the one you're experiencing with your throat. However, it's important to see a medical doctor to rule out a physical illness. The Catch-22 about social anxiety is that seeing a professional can be extremely helpful in overcoming it (and it can be overcome), but the nature of social anxiety makes it hard to see a professional. Some people find it helpful to write a list of what they're experiencing to give to the therapist to start things off. If your school has counselors, you could start there. While it could be hard to start, it could also be incredibly helpful to see a professional therapist. It's very important to know that no matter what degree of social anxiety you may be experiencing, this anxiety isn't who you are. It's something you're dealing with, and it's something you can overcome in a way that works for you. You don't have to become something you're not in order to get rid of an annoyance.

嗨,雷,
感谢你分享你的想法!我爱你不得不说些什么。这消息我从害羞不是“坏”。Yes, there are challenges that result, but strenghts come from it too -- we are who we are, and who we are affects what we learn in life. I think general well-being would increase if people would accept themselves and accept others for all of our similarities and differences. I like your comment about techniques, too. No matter what it is we live with or what our inborn temperament is like, we can find ways to grow and overcome difficulties. We can embrace who we are while striving to beat obstacles. I'm glad you have visited our website, and I hope you return. (And happy birthday next week.)

嗨,玛丽,
谢谢你的评论。我将把我的评论最低因为你解决这个其他读者的想法。HealthyPlace被设计成一个人们彼此互动和交流经验,所以它是伟大的,这里有一个讨论!我只是说,你并不孤单。没有说明符连接到社交焦虑表明焦虑的标准必须发生在X的人数。你觉得舒适的一对一,但是任何超过是非常困难的。这是一点也不奇怪,这绝对是社交焦虑症。我想知道如果你曾经试着逐渐增加的人数以自己感觉舒服的单独和你出去玩的人通过练习。例如,你可以与你的finacee,然后有一个好朋友或家庭成员在短时间内加入你。我相信别人能分享他们的经验以及一些建议。 Oh, one last thing. Congratulations on your sobriety. Be proud of yourself for that. It takes a strong person to recognize a problem and take action to fix it.

嗨妈妈戴维斯
这对你是非常重要的,知道你女儿的焦虑不是你的错。除了在滥用等极端情况下,焦虑儿童/青少年不是由父母(研究显示)。我父母,我知道我们的自然问题自己当我们的孩子经历是这样的。真的,她的焦虑不是由你引起的。你的信息表明母亲非常关心和想要帮助她的女儿。这是一种资产,你的女儿很幸运有这样一个支持性的父母。不认为她的焦虑而言,你做错了什么。从她的角度认为相反。最好的方法就是说话和听你的女儿(你最有可能正在这样做,所以保持它!)。有时是有用的不要太多关注焦虑。 Talk to her about other things in her life: interests, classes, TV shows, anything other than the anxiety. Play games together or find other hobbies. These will show her that there's more to her than anxiety. Regarding her anxiety, don't ignore it. Ask her what would make things better for her, then slowly work to make those things happen. What strategies a therapist or school counselor should use will depend on her age and developmental stage. True improvement is a gradual process, but it can happen. (And one final thought: let her define what "improvement" means to her. If, for example, social anxiety is the main issue, she might not want to turn into a social butterfly. The goal doesn't have to be extreme popularity. It's perfectly okay if her goal is to simply be more comfortable in a classroom and have one or two friends to eat lunch with.) You seem very caring, and that is going to help your daughter.

这可能会或可能不会对你感到惊讶:你并不孤单在这个体验!其实我很能体会你所说,可以很多。我注意到你写的东西,非常强大,非常有用的东西。你确定你的长处之一:你自己的和陌生人你伟大的事实。这听起来像是一旦你知道,你是伟大的人,但是一系列的消极经历与你认识的人改变你的想法和信念与陌生人成为好。另一个好处是,你可以识别特定的造成这种转变发生的事情。有不同的方法来解决这一新的社会焦虑(至少保持进步但我认为这可以大大减少)。一种方法是首先关注你的独特优势。要具体。你的性格优势拥有世界上,您可以使用吗? Write them down and keep them with you to look at often. Add to them when you notice more good things about you or what you do. How are you good with strangers, how did you behave as a social butterfly, etc. Then take an objective look at the problematic people in your past and present. Write down things about them (of course this wouldn't be a petty list of superficial weaknesses but a true examination of how they interacted with you as well as possible reasons.) Perhaps you'll find objective evidence that their treatment of you wasn't justified. Armed with that knowledge plus knowledge of your strengths, you can begin to move forward and hold a job that is satisfying to you, enter new relationships, etc. Your social anxiety is legitimate. And it's a product of past interactions. The past doesn't have to be the pattern of your future.

嗨,艾米丽,
我想象它可能是令人沮丧的被告知你长大以后你的壳!即使人们很意义,它发送一条消息,您的shell有毛病。没有错是害羞或有社交焦虑症或逃避型人格障碍。唯一可能是“错误的”不是一个缺陷的人经历这样的社会焦虑但的“错误”如果你认为这是得到你想要的生活方式的生活。生活在你的神经可能不会限制你。许多人非常舒适安静的生活,不是很社会。这是非常好的!哪里就有问题,如果有人想出来的外壳,但不能。有很多方法,逐步做到,如果你想。但是如果你不理解一个问题,那么你应该拥抱你是谁和你想要的生活方式!

你好马谢,
是相当普遍的社会焦虑(恐惧)和一个人从很小的时候。你很正确,可能是由于各种各样的东西。有时探索原因是有用的,有时它可以防止别人前进。很好,你正在与一个治疗师,时知道什么时候探索过去,放手,是最好的决定了在治疗师的帮助下,和一个你舒服。你有另一个精明的观察:你越避免恐惧,更大的就为我们所有人(这是真的)。你考虑过逐渐暴露疗法和体内治疗?这些,你慢慢地暴露于恐惧让你的大脑和身体逐渐习惯于社会设置。体内意味着在生活中或在世界上。治疗师伴随你各种社交场合和使用通过恐惧,直到它变得可以忍受的。也许你会想要与你的医生讨论这些技术和他/她可以帮助你决定是否适合你。 It's not easy, but there are ways to reduce that mountain to a hill. It might never be flat, but it will not be so big as to get in your way.