焦虑是有目的的;了解它，战胜焦虑

嗨，Tonya，我不敢相信我以前没有看过和读过这个!我很感激The HealthyPlace像其他网站一样转发了这些照片。
你提到了我焦虑的所有原因。全部4个主题。我知道原因，我知道当我以如此麻痹的方式感受它们时，我需要面对它们。然而我无法征服他们。MDD也是一个巨大的因素，因为自2006年以来MDD被禁用了。后来，当我和一个隐藏的自恋者结婚时，我出现了严重的焦虑，最终通过一些伟大的专业人士了解到这一点。一位精神科医生倾听我的心声，找到我问题的根源，还有一位同样出色的咨询师，我把他当作朋友，我们成了朋友，所以我们相处得很融洽。他们每个人都是在我现在的前配偶坚持去参加我的几个约会时认识的。这些经历给我带来了巨大的转折点，让我开始理解我所经历的一切。他们每个人都通过代理人分别诊断我的前任，是一个非常恶毒的操纵性的隐蔽自恋者! (To readers who may not know what I mean “by proxy”, it’s observing someone who’s not seeking treatment and by pure observation and dialogue they were able to clearly see what he was/is). He believed he ran those sessions and told them each what my problems were and what they should be doing about it. (He didn’t want me seeing anyone to begin with), and constantly condemned me and them for not treating me correctly. Ugh ? that was the beginning of my education in narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, etc. He had every trait. My mother also has many maternal traits as well as being overly controlling. I’ve since divorced that spouse in the divorce from hell that earned me the diagnosis of C-PTSD. What should have been a simple divorce was anything but. The court system caused me much grief and trauma as well. This has been 4 years divorced, 6 years total of separation/divorce with NO CONTACT NO REACTION to any of his still manipulative things he does all under the radar. I’ve isolated myself to the point I don’t leave the house. Depression is so thick around me it’s suffocating most days, AND then there’s all these different types of anxieties nobody gets. I’ve lost all friends and family, mostly my grown daughter from a first marriage who my now ex, (her ex step dad)successfully brainwashed into believing I’m the horrible evil person he in fact is. Losing her and my three young granddaughters has been the biggest devastation and heartbreak of all. He purposely set out to do that knowing she was my rock. He hated her. I kept that from her not to hurt her and it ended up in my face. I was once very respected and liked in my community and from my work. That’s no longer so. He publicly humiliated me many times, (but never in front of any family or friends. “The smear campaign” they’re also known for. I fear that loneliness is going to be what eventually makes me snap. I have my dog who I credit for my existence. Without her and her unconditional love there is no one else. I never in my life imagined this Ifot myself. I was once very vibrant and outgoing and that was squashed by my ex’s unfounded jealousy. Another trait that cheaters do to take the attention off of themselves. I didn’t mention that I loved this man like no one else before. That’s still hard to understand how I loved and was married 18 years to someone who’s lies were so believable I never doubted him or his fidelity. Sad when you learn they’ve never been capable of love for anyone but themselves. The day I told him to get out, with proof that fell into my hands of cheating he denied it all with rivers of tears. Tears that were another perfect performance, but I couldn’t deny the undeniable and insisted he leave. The very next morning when I got up and he’d slept on the couch that night, he’d already been up and a totally different man. I knew at that point I’d become his personal #1 enemy. I’ve been that ever since, and yet he’s still able to keep his enablers in check. I’ve dropped out of social media long ago and became ad private as you can be. Speaking to no one we once knew together including my family and old friends. No one, but no one understands what living and what kind of long term effects these emotional vampires have on you. I know only all too well.
感谢您的时间和这篇文章。它完美地解释了我焦虑的所有来源。我一直在与他们斗争，并获得控制权

介意我问一下这篇文章的来源吗?听起来会很有趣。

我喜欢这篇文章。但有时我们很难找到焦虑的真正目的。我们怎样才能看得清楚呢?