边缘人格障碍，操纵与诚实

女孩，我懂了。BPD太难了。我不知道什么是真的什么是我失去理智了。我刚被诊断出患有BPD，我和前男友正在努力复合，我觉得我没有朋友，也无法掌控现实。我觉得当事情发生的时候我没有人可以求助。

我不知道如何用我的头部或我的头部进入的一切来配置响应。但肯定是理解。
我只是想要你和她所有人的所有人。我孤独。非常非常孤单。这就像我想成为自己但不是孤独的。我所做的一半是潜意识的，当我无法解释人们不明白时。所以我向这些帖子中信任，评论和理解的人。无论多远，我都感受到了联系。给我理由。
我感谢你们的大家，只是成为你。
不管我们对自己有多可怕，我们对彼此都是圣人。

很有意思

你听起来很无知，很粗鲁。我有BPD，对这种病很了解。你知道“操纵被定义为深思熟虑的思考过程”吗?不是行为，而是思想。有见识的，精明的，有技巧的....制定计划，实施一个计划，一个想法，并把它变成现实。”操纵是一种反应，而不是反应。操纵被定义为一个思维过程，而不是一个行为过程。行为只是产品。这种反应的产物，一种伪操纵，通常会在一个具有边缘型人格的人感觉到即将到来的毁灭、灾难和抛弃时被激活。 This hypersensitivity may stir up tremendous anxiety and helplessness. Most people with a borderline personality have not successfully moved though their early developmental stages and are fixated usually around 2 to 4 years of age. Impulsivity is a prominent behavior that is often misinterpreted as manipulation. A person with borderline personality may experience anxiety as helplessness since she cannot equate her notions to an adult on an equal level. In other words, the sufferer of BPD 'is in maddening, excruciating emotional pain and confusion.' Many psychiatrists portrays helplessness especially well since time becomes narrowed and pressured giving a sense of urgency to resolve the pain. This sets into motion a reactive reflex (pseudo-manipulation) to ward off anxiety with often-destructive consequences. These destructive measures amount to job loss or relationship failure due to poor strategies to resolve antithetical troubles, hardly an artful and shrewd manipulation of a mastermind. Also, many psychiatrists have a particular dislike for the word "manipulative" as commonly applied to these patients [borderline]. They point out that this implies that they are skilled at managing other people, when it is precisely the opposite that is true. Also, the fact that a person may feel manipulated does not necessarily imply that this was the intention of someone with BPD; It is more probable that the patient did not have the skills to deal with the situation more effectively. Rather than viewing themselves [individuals with borderline personality disorder] as someone who is attempting to manipulate, is attention-seeking, or is sabotaging treatment, individuals with borderline personality disorder learn to view themselves as driven by the disorder to seek relief from a painful illness through desperate behaviors which are reinforced by negative and distorted thinking. "A borderline personality has the ability to manipulate, however; it is not the principal process of artful cognition that leads to borderline-style behavior. If we are going to use the term ‘behavior’ then it is more parallel to defensive behavior. Most of the time a borderline adapts to defensive behavior rather than manipulative behavior. People with BPD have emotional reactions, or behaviors that are blunt, clumsy and ineffective efforts to have the BPD's needs met. There is an immense differentiation between primitive borderline defense mechanisms and skillful manipulation, the product of each, which is behavior." It is helpful to consider that often times a person that has borderline personality is a ‘mixed bag’ since co-morbidity traits in patients with borderline personality disorder is high. However, if borderline personality disorder is the principle personality structure, chances are they are poor manipulators. Manipulation is a deliberate and artful thought process, which is not a common trait found in the borderline personality. The borderline personality defense is closer a Reactive Defense Mechanism that operates as a knee-jerk retort flung into motion from a low threshold of impulsivity. Identifying the difference between manipulation and reaction to painful stimuli can help ameliorate the therapeutic stance.
所以也许你应该更加小心你所说的，因为它可能是伤害和不认识的人，因为那些争取精神疾病的人。谢谢阅读，我希望这为您提供教育。:)