留下一个虐待关系:为什么我不能离开?
很多人会鞭策自己这个问题:“为什么我不能离开吗?”你想要the easy answer? You aren't ready to leave yet.
你
- 没有相信滥用认股权证你离开,或
- 你缺乏财政资源,或
- 你在与你的施虐者,或
- 孩子们太小,或
- 孩子们几乎辍学,或
- 施虐者需要你,或者
- 在这里填写你的原因。
注意我说的填写原因在这里。这些都不是借口。你保持的原因可能听起来像借口给别人,但不要让任何人轻视你的决定留下来。我真的想结束这句话与“留下来现在“但事实是,你可能永远不会离开。你可能70岁了,想知道你的配偶是超过预期寿命管理,他们如此痛苦和令人讨厌的(很多人现在这样做)。
我想要的你是好的选择,因为决策是授权。你可以保持是一个选择。
留下一个虐待关系是很重要的
不负责任的建议
这将是非常不负责任的我,如果我不要说几件事。
- 我想要你结束你的虐待关系。生命太短暂和珍贵的花用一个伤害你的人。
- 如果你的施虐者身体上攻击你,我希望你离开现在。辱骂升级物理攻击和攻击升级而死。此外,你可能不是唯一一个死你的施虐者可能会谋杀你,然后你的孩子和其他人。
的一点是,选择留在一个施虐者将会有非常严重的情感和/或身体的后果。这只是一个时间问题。
留下一个虐待关系不是你唯一的选择
纪念一个人的选择留在一个虐待关系是一个相对较新的概念,家庭暴力的社会工作者和其他家庭暴力帮手。你可能会发现助手支持你无论你决定做什么。另一方面,您可能会发现助手决定没有什么他们可以帮你如果你不离开施虐者。疼,我知道,但是仅仅因为他们的专家并不意味着他们总是知道正确的事情去做。
另外,你的许多最亲密的朋友和家庭成员可能会远离你如果你选择留下来。我们经常告诉自己,他们厌倦了听我们抱怨当我们不会做任何改变。记住,爱你的人也需要想让自己保持头脑清醒。如果他们和你在战斗中,他们可能不足以拉你出去,如果你改变了主意,把关系。
别把这当做人身攻击,如果人们不支持你的决定,请不要责怪自己,因为你觉得你不能离开。我们就有这一段时间,看看我们能做些什么为我们的精神健康,当我们选择留下来。
接受你的虐待关系的重要概念
你不能让你的施虐者快乐,因此你不能让他们疯了。你没有魔法力量控制你的施虐者的言语或行为,没有你的言语或行为的组合会导致滥用。
大多数你所做的一切,说将“错误”,如果今天的你是对的,你明天可能是错的。所以你不妨照你请。做你自己的决定,你的直觉行动。不管你做什么,滥用将继续下去。
你在一个关系是靠你的诚实的自我披露。但是,与健康的亲密关系,你的另一半对你使用你的最深的秘密。你不能信任你的施虐者用心,所以闭上你的嘴。
会有喜悦和快乐的时刻在你的虐待关系。继续享受性爱,恭维,笑话等等。但留下的欢乐时刻。不要以为因为他/她一分钟前笑了笑,笑容会在那里当你看一遍。人类需要快乐在他们的生活,所以抓住所有你可以。
你需要一个安全计划。时期。施虐者是不可预测的,你永远不知道你什么时候要躲开它们。思考一个和平时期的安全计划中会帮助你更加迅速和清楚地思考在危险的时刻。
让人们在外面你的关系密切。隔离是施虐者的最好的朋友。当你远离别人,你失去了最宝贵的生命线一个虐待的人可以从人们有——的想法除了施虐者。你增加的影响,滥用只听你的施虐者的意见,所以保持联系外面的世界。
培养自己对家庭暴力和虐待。搜索词和短语如语言和情感虐待,虐待的副作用,煤气灯,疯狂,让洗脑。每天学习一点关于你的伴侣操纵和控制你减少他们的能力去做。
接受自己的概念
你是人类;一个不完美的人可以做最好的你知道怎么做在这个瞬间。每一个瞬间。
你是可爱的。
你应得的尊重。
你可以选择一件事今天和明天的另一件事。
你是强大的。
你可以学习,成长和适应。
你不需要接受或吸收谎言,即使真理的谎言有一粒(见分离从辱骂催眠MP3)。
你神的手,即使你不能感觉到它,但有时你必须做一些不同,所以他可以帮助你以另一种方式。
你决定谁留在你的生活。
你决定什么时候离开一个虐待关系是否适合你。
APA的参考
乔,k(2014年1月22日)。留下一个虐待关系:为什么我不能离开?,HealthyPlace。检索2021年4月25日从//www.lharmeroult.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2014/01/why-cant-i-leave-abuse
作者:凯莉乔冬青
早上好丹尼斯,
我看到你在做一些研究工作。我在一个严重口头和情感虐待结婚近20年。去年6月我终于离开。我住的原因也是我担心大家会认为。我已经告诉没人的虐待。我发现,人们知道比你想象的更多。我最近开始了新的职业生涯的一个非赢利组织,致力于消除亲密伴侣暴力。我已经学了很多关于我自己的经验和对亲密伴侣虐待。我对你的建议是教育自己所有可能的选项。你可能会发现机会离开不久,在许多年,要么一无所有。 You will know when it is right and it is helpful to have a safety plan. call the national hotline, they can direct you to an Intimate Partner Abuse organization near you. Most hotlines will assist you in many ways even if you are not ready to leave. Feel free to reach out.
我10年到第二个虐待关系。我试图抓住都着急,只关注美好的时光比坏很大程度上持续一段时间。我已经能够逃脱上班但封锁是一个人间地狱。我现在的丈夫是一个滥用喝醉了,他说正在严重破坏我的心灵的安宁。我认为,滥用变得更加严重,因为他想推开我足够的在线广播性行为。今天最新的法案是忽略了狗,不舒服,不让他出去,导致我清理粪便和凌晨走的狗在黑暗后10小时一天在家工作。通常滥用是一个周末,而是因为他没有工作本周滥用时间表已经转移到一个星期的一天。花了一整天在办公室/客房担心他做一个在线现场,关闭WiFi,等等。我在NHS工作和很负责任的工作。我感到很孤独和低,他在空着的房间里,我一直睡觉做网络性行为。不知道我做了什么,应该受到这样的惩罚,但给他一天左右他会爬。 My problem is I cannot forget things he says; so awful I cannot repeat them and they are affecting any physical relationship I can have with him. Not sure why I’m so weak but getting to stage that cannot forget...
你好安丽莎,我是谢丽尔Wozny,作者从言语虐待关系之一的博客。我很抱歉听到你的情况,但是我很高兴,你有勇气接触别人,寻求你所需要的帮助。根据你的位置,你可以访问各种资源在你的社区。你可以通过访问我们的页面推荐资源://www.lharmeroult.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-refer…。你可能想尝试全国家庭暴力热线更多的帮助。我希望你最好的运气得到支持,你需要帮助你的状况。
你好爱,我很抱歉你正在经历什么。我知道这是很难对很多人谈论和理解。我很高兴你找到我们!我建议检查出这个资源和称呼某人对你的情况如果你能://www.lharmeroult.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-refer…。我也推荐寻求顾问如果你能——他们能够给我们工具,我们需要度过这些艰难的时刻。我希望你继续阅读我们的博客,找到你正在寻找的灵感和帮助!
爱和光明,Katlyn。
我同意绝大多数的但我不同意享受性爱。你不应该与谁虐待你,做爱,可能是一个滥用乔装的策略。也许你可以强奸,甚至不知道它,很多武术强奸幸存者在没有意识到他们被强奸。不要“抓住你所能”,因为对你的施虐者将使用。保持冷静和距离。我甚至会建议“当下”,因为整个点所以蜜月期的施虐者可以使你所以你可以留下来。受害者通常不能享受这一时刻”,因为“时刻”变成了长期的,因为他们是“狂喜”。当你“享受时刻”它是一种操纵策略让你呆更长的时间。你爱上它,因为施虐者是如此光滑,你甚至没有意识到发生了什么。你喜欢“好时光”“性”,“笑”的“笑话”“你能抓住的”和“享受时刻”之前,你知道你下降网罗a.k.蜜月阶段。“当下”和你呆一到两周时间,或者一个月长。 I would say don't even enjoy it all, not for moment or a second because the minute you do you you'll get too comfortable. If you have the courage to completely ignore it, or reject it or display your disdain for the temporary fakeness your abuser shows, well do it. If you can't, act like you enjoy it, but don't or you will subconsciously fall for it. That's the reason why victims usually stay is because they want the good ol days back, wishing the abuser will change and that's easy to believe in "enjoying the moment" being it seems all to good and get too comfortable and let there guard down. I wouldnt even play the abusers mind games with "enjoying the moment", why even get him thinking your falling for his ways. Why even tempt yourself with "enjoying the moment" knowing you've put yourself in a position by your abuser to possibly fall for it. Your possibly setting yourself up for failure. Your playing with fire. If you don't play his mind games he won't have anyone to play with.
嗨。我在一个非常糟糕的情绪虐待关系。我看到我的男朋友现在已经六个月。完美的开始,他要见我,跟我说话,等。对我来说我认为我找到了一个完美的人。随着关系的进展,情况更糟了。他是能够使用/工作在电话中交谈,因为他建设工作。他想要(现在仍然想)是在电话里跟我24/7当他是在工作。我竭尽全力的借口下车跟他电话,因为它最有可能总是会导致争吵或打架。现在我又开始上学,他要我跟他说只要我不上课或者做我的学校工作。当我告诉他,我得走了,他让我感觉坏,说我“离开他自己。” On top of it, we fight all the time, and when we fight it's very bad. He calls me a pathological liar and a cheater (all because my ex boyfriend texted me one time out of the blue to see how I was, and I told him it was just an old friend). He tells me that he has to beg me for sex, but I would give it up to anyone else with no problem. He has called my outfits ugly before and has called me worthless and basically a whore. I have to ask him to go anywhere, and I'm basically scared to go anywhere without telling him because he expects a call. He also tracks my location. I feel like I can't go anywhere without telling him first because he'll get mad at me. I basically have to ask him if I can go out with my friends, and if he doesn't want me to go out he makes me feel awful and manipulates me into not going out. He also tells me I'm not allowed to wear certain things. He wants me to spend so much time with him, whenever he's out of work. I feel like I don't have time to myself. I miss my friends, I miss being home with my mom, and I miss going to the gym. Last night we got into an awful fight because I went out with my friends to a party and I didn't tell him what happened there. I tried to leave him 5 times, and he always makes me feel bad about it. I don't know what's wrong with me, whenever I get the chance to leave I don't. I'm so stupid and so miserable. I've been thinking about breaking up with him but I don't know how to do it. My mom tells me that when I'm ready to leave him I will, but I'm so scared... what if I'm never ready to leave him? I just want my freedom back, I don't want to be controlled anymore. I don't even love him anymore, I'm more afraid of him than anything. I feel like I can't leave him because his mom is sick and he doesn't see his friends often. I feel like I'm all he has, but I can't be like this anymore. I'm not myself, I want my life back. I want to go out, have fun and not have to worry about this bull anymore. A relationship shouldn't be this hard. I feel like another reason why I wont leave him is because I don't want to experience another heart break... I already lost my dad 2 years ago and I just want to be happy. I feel like I'm lost. I need to get out of this awful relationship but he wont let me leave. I haven't even mentioned some other stuff. He talks over me, doesn't let me speak, points his finger in my face, gets all up in my face, etc. I feel like this might lead to him hitting me, but I don't think he would ever do that. After a fight I always apologize because he makes me feel like i'm the one in the wrong, when I know that I'm not. I'm so miserable, I spend all my time fighting with him and it's not healthy. I'm not myself anymore. I don't know why I can't leave him. I need help. He makes me feel like he's the best boyfriend ever, that he doesn't give me a reason to worry, that he never cheats, that he treats me like a queen. WHICH IS FALSE AND I KNOW IT'S FALSE BUT I CAN'T LEAVE HIM. I'm so miserable and this reply is all over the place but I'm just letting everything out now
嗨爱。我的心向你伸出。我很抱歉你在这个位置。我希望它有助于知道你不是一个人,很多人在你的确切情况。并没有什么错你发现很难离开,因为它是一个非常困难的局面。我希望这个资源可以帮助你。//www.lharmeroult.com/abuse/domestic-violence/how-to-report-domestic-violence-dome…。我也希望你能够和别人谈谈你的情况,不管是朋友、家人或医生。让别人知道你正在经历可以真正有帮助的原因很多,有时候打开门离开。我最后一次个人的建议是要记住别人不负责我们的幸福,在单身生活中我发现无尽的快乐和爱自己爱别人之前我准备。所以,如果你害怕离开这个人将意味着你不能快乐以外的关系,试图记住这一点也不是真的,,他并不总是使你快乐。爱和光明,Katlyn。
我刚刚下了25年的严酷的精神、物理、金融滥用。很多拳,我儿子看到父亲打我的两倍。他所做的最后一件事是打我的脸,打击我,他打破了我的锁骨。一年之后,我终于自己和儿子。我不确定他能做什么,我不想知道。他当然否认,但我需要坚强给我儿子和我。这个问题每个人都问我为什么等待这么长时间。
感谢你分享你的故事。重要的是要记住,你的坚强和勇敢做你认为最适合你和你的儿子。它可以很难找到你的出路的虐待关系的原因很多,你是否感到操纵或害怕。听起来你好象找到了通向后愈合的创伤。我鼓励你去接触一个心理专业的如果你需要有人谈论经验,为你的进步感到骄傲,继续被强!爱和光明,Katlyn。
我与我的丈夫已经有十年了。他对我精神上情感上和身体上的虐待。我也不敢离开,我是互相依赖的。我想离开,但我一直对自己说“我将错过他”我觉得愚蠢的想法“我不会再次可以拥抱或亲吻他”,或者我将独自....我害怕他会做什么。我们试图卖掉我们的房子,我认为如果我们这样做会离开....的绝佳机会我感到软弱,因为我不要离开.....我don't want to waste my life with this person I want to leave but every time I have a chance I back out. I am miserable I cry every day.
我叠恋爱8年,但过去3年的是纯粹的人间地狱。当我们见面是最好的事情曾经发生在我身上。我有人爱我,只有我和接受我的我是谁,还以为我是美丽的。看到我整个关系接近400英镑,我们特地搬到远离家人和朋友,他只是让我美联储和可行的支付账单的一半。他感到安全知道我被其他男人不希望或预期。最终我受够了我累了我已经厌倦了厌倦了我的外观和在痛苦和超重我损失了160磅在一瞬间改变了我整个的生活。我开始关注人回到我左和右是我穿着好看的衣服我不能穿在我面前看起来像一个完全不同的人我终于漂亮,他变得丑陋。每次我出去他发誓我是和另一个男人我欺骗他每次我们一起出去的时候,如果其他男人看着我,他会生气,试着开始打架。他将试着让我吃不健康的食物,他说他不喜欢小女人,喜欢我的大。我终于意识到我的话我意识到我没有坚持这个男人,我可以做得更好。 I could be better. I could go further in life without him holding me back with his negativity and his in responsible and imature ways. A year ago one morning I was getting ready for work and before I could get up to go to the bathroom she runs to use it before I do and it set me off because i really had to use it and he did it on purpose. So i started knocking on the door telling him to hurry up and get out.. He got so mad he cracked the door as i reached out to open it he slammed it catching my finger.. Then grabbing to the floor.. Eventually choking me.. At that point i thought it was it.. Because he has threatened before to kill me.. He has slapped me around and pushed but this time he didnt stop.. I was scratching for dear life until i kicked him in his private part got up and grabbed my purse ran out the door to my car.. He was right behind me. I was able to get in and lock the doors so he grabbed a huge rock busted my windshield window.. As i hurry up and try to drive away.. He picked it up threw it and busted my back window i drove as far as i could see to the closest store yesterday drink because my throat was on fire.. But i sat in the parking lot and broke down. The people in the store ran out to ask if i was ok because of my car.. But they seen my blood shot eyes bloody fingers and called the police. Police came i tild them he just damaged my car.. The cop said "he also strangled you" at first i denied it .. Then i said yes.. He was able to tell the blood vessels in my ass were broken and i couldn't turn my neck.. The officer was so angry he speed away to my address. My boyfriend fled the scene.. But proceeded to call me.. The officer told me to put it on speaker he said " im sorry.. I love you.. You made me do it.. Please dont put me in jail" i went along with it hoping he would come home but he didnt. The officer said he sounds like a sociopath and he needs to be in jail. But since he ran me and the cop came up with a plan.. He told me eventually he is going to come back.. Play it cool like every thing is ok.. When he is good and sleep secretly call the cops so he can the be arrested. So i did just that.. I left the doors unlocked went in the bathroom called the cops the came in woke him up and took him to jail
终于自由,他是他所属的地方。我去他的审判前,指控他犯有绞杀固有监禁和破坏财产。他服役禁令sonhe不能叫我但男孩恳求我不要出现他的家人不作证。他不好意思所以爱上我,地狱永远不会再做一次. .等等等等……我是法院命令去猜猜. .我没一个月后他被释放,我们一起回来。他所有的承诺“illl从来没有不尊重你. .或者再打你,生病得到帮助。生病戒烟杂草”. . Wrong it was good for maybe a month then back to being every name under the sun and abuse. One night i made him dinner for when he came home from work.. I was napping before hand so i couldn't hear my phone when he walked in the door. He started Screaming at me .. Calling me names accusing me of cheating. Took the food off the stove and poures it on my head.. Takes my glasses and breaks them now i cant see.. Takes dish soup shoves it in my mouth and squeezes the bottle .. Then takes his foot and try to shove his dirty foot with his srinky sock all in my mouth and over my face then starts punching in my bottom. Takes my phone and smaches it.. I run out blind to my car.. At this point ive learned to hid my keys and purse in a spot i can grab it just in case and i drive to a walmart its 1 in the morning im walking looking like carrie from the movie with food and soap all over me.. With bo shoes on.. They thought i was crazy .. I bought some shoes and new clothes went into the restroom to change.. I didnt even cry this time i was used to it until one person asked me if i was ok.. I broke down.. This lady let me come to her house for the night bought me food took me to get a new phone told me to call my mom.. I did i told her everything my mom was schocked and asked my if somthing was wrong with me.. Why do i keep going back.. I promiced her this time i wasn't going back.. Well i did i dont know why i couldnt stay strong.. I had all the money.. The car the apartment was mine.. I paid all the bills he half assed everything i had
。智慧. .现在新的看起来我很容易离开发现有人还但是因为某些原因我不能离开. .我觉得我还不能信任知道. .我总是说他不欺骗我. .他从不晚回家或隐藏他的电话. .他给我买东西,给他的钱当他. .他爱上了我…我还有精神困惑. .我强大到足以让他离开6个月但他承诺改变了我让他回来
好快的男性大约四个月前的今天。我得到的最好的消息我的生活. .我怀孕了…我一直在为8年。我想我不能有孩子。我告诉医生我就很难自然受孕的减肥是我的治疗。我告诉了他这个好消息高兴我以为他就是因为他总是指责我偷偷服用避孕药,因为我怀孕吃,因为他想要一个孩子。首先他说不是我的,如果你真的怀孕,我想让你证明这一点,他就去买了一个验孕棒,让我撒尿。他看起来高兴打电话给他的家人和所有的朋友,告诉他有一个宝贝,持续了一天. .第二天,我们进入一个agrument我打电话我妈妈长. . We went back and fourth then the name calling and then he struck me.. And stuck me.. And shoved me and told me he was really going to kill me.. I climbed out the bed room window ran to my car went to the hospital got checked out. They called the police i got a order of protection.. Stayed in a hotel room until he was served and taken to jail. He got out two weeks later but i have not looked back.. I have to protect my baby.. The baby gave me strength this time to be strong and to don't ever go to him.. I could never trust him around my child or myself i feel better at peace and comfortable in my home.. Sooner or later i do belive he would have killed me.. Please dont wait till it gets to that point.. Love does not hurt.. Love feels good.. Makes you happy not anxious or nervous or paranoid.. Love is exactly that love abuse is exactly that to abuse sometimes it's hard to not confuse the two and makes them together for their two different words in two different meanings... Save your self and if you have children save them an abuser should.never be around kids even if they're not abusing the kids they're abusing you and you can see that trust they will never forget that
谢谢你写这篇文章
我要离开3年的虐待关系
每次他伤害了我,他说“爱情伤害了你怎么知道这是爱,这是一件好事”
已经这么长时间我真的开始相信他想这种爱必须是如此强大,我仍然可以爱他之后我们所有的问题
但我觉得现在离开
你对爱是爱它不伤害
和所有的这些问题都是我不需要忍受他的愤怒和仇恨
我是一个好人我爱我自己,我可以忍受自己幸福
我希望你和你的宝宝是安全的,x
我的情感虐待关系。我们已经7年了。我总是,我想跑回他. .我不知道为什么。我非常的想念他,但我知道他不适合我,我也不相信我为他好。已经过了一个月了自从我离开他。我做的是想到他,想到消息他,但我知道如果我这样做重复。我猜我只是写这是否有任何人有任何建议或正在经历同样的事情。恐怕我不会去克服他。
我丈夫和我都出现在我们的四周年,我们在一起5。上周我刚离开他,这是非常困难的。我更失望。我爱他,但我应该得到更多。我们都应该爱我们一样爱他们的人。保持强劲。一些与你连接是有原因的,季节,或两者兼而有之。如果你没有看到它,行动最终会告诉你。你是一个女王,不要让一个男人半是你。
你好,汉娜,我只是最近的和,四年,口头虐待关系。我们继续回去的原因是我们孤独。一旦你忙着思考其他的事情,它会好转的。同时,试着记住坏的时候,你是想联系他。因为坏年景不好! ! !y你值得爱和关心的人,那些尊重你!
我现在试图离开我5年的婚姻。我们有三个年轻女孩在一起,他们让我在这里。我丈夫身体虐待和情感在我们的婚姻的开始。但现在的情绪和金融。他虐待我的儿子。我儿子不是和我们去年9月,因为我的丈夫和他吵架了,我的儿子跑,现在和我的妈妈。
我的故事有太多的曲折。很多人(儿童)、贴现、法院、律师、加。
我累了,厌倦了总是犯错,厌倦了感觉疯狂,质疑一切,厌倦了想知道下一刻我跟他是goingvto。我同意,我没有意见,我没有声音,我讨厌这个人。我不敢让他疯了……他们只是单词和只有一段时间,他会大叫和骚扰我……也许他会坚持几天,几个月,几年取决于它如何影响他。但是我害怕。
他说他是多么爱一个丈夫和父亲,他如何为我们所有人做了很多,他会做任何事情来拯救我们的婚姻,但是如果我提到虐待……算了吧。
他经常要我撒谎向调查人员情况和我们的关系。
所以,现在他是不错的。家里帮助他,帮助女孩,问我的儿子,想要全家团聚。但他不会做咨询,不会使用贴现。我有没有提到他有法院提出他的前妻修改托管和我想作证。
我一直试图建立勇气离开,我有一个律师,我支持……但他的友善和爱和支持。但是我们以前来过这里。
我迫切地想要跑,所以不确定,我累了,我害怕。我等待事情坏还是好当事情是好?
你好,梅塞德斯:施虐者不太可能会改变。我知道你正在经历什么,你拼命地想相信事情会保持这样,最糟糕的时期已经过去了,然而,这是循环的一部分。如果是坏的,我们会离开很久以前,对吗?这就是我们如何保持关系中的困惑和迷失自己。我们必须开始告诉自己,他们只能一样好他们对我们做过的最糟糕的事情。没有理由你生活在恐惧之中。我希望你找到看到真相的力量,当你准备好面对它。我一直在你的地方。请照顾好自己。克里斯汀
谢谢你谢谢你谢谢你说真相在事实上的基调。是的有时候和平和幸福,当我开始怀疑我有罪的想法离开这虐待关系。我容忍他的行为已经有23年,为什么我不能继续?我们应该沟通,然后事情会好转的。我无视他的努力使得我们的家庭好的生活等等。我经常在我的心灵里有许多相互竞争的思想,感觉完全糊涂了。别人的建议也复杂。
所以再次感谢指出,住在一个施虐者将产生非常严重的情感和/或身体的后果,它只是一个时间问题。,生命太短暂和珍贵的痛苦和伤害。
我在7年的虐待关系,我准备离开,但问题是,l我怕这家伙可能会伤害我。他曾经打我去申请大学,他说他不希望我去学校。我是一个孤儿,我没有朋友。我不认为他爱我他关心的是性和金钱,因为每次当我有钱他一切。
我总是进入这篇文章当我受到一个“事件”之后和我的合作伙伴。我希望我没有让重读这些话一天但是现在他们让我觉得不那么孤单。我想今天就像地狱,我认为这可能是一个地方是你在一个悲惨的,有毒的,无法离开,因为一个费解的毁灭灵魂的关系,强大的力量让你选择留下来。但这并不是他,我的生活就像,请将这些话我想结束。
你好IB,我很抱歉听到你现在正在经历。可以如此肯定读过其他人因为他们的经验让我们感觉就少一点孤立和绝望。你并不孤单,虽然你现在可能无法看到它,有一种方法。我不知道你的情况,但事实上,你在这里意味着你在路径搜索和可以发现出口之路。请复制这个链接,访问我们的页面推荐数字资源在家庭暴力。他们可以指出你在区域资源可以帮助你。//www.lharmeroult.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-refer…谢谢你花时间留下评论。克里斯汀
我的丈夫控制一切。我可以没有钱,他检查我的电话,邮件,内衣。我不能淋浴,如果他是在工作。他检查我的使用卫生棉条,因为他说我撒谎否认性。我不能剃我的私人部分。我写这篇文章,我感到很愚蠢,甚至没有一个真正的人。我觉得有时候我在看电影,因为很离奇。我不能工作我有一个儿子19 y / o自闭症和精神分裂症。我其他的儿子4年前得了癌症,他现在是16。我也有一个10 y / o和他的女儿。 Everyone tells me why I just leave and that I am so stupid. Also people tell my that I am still with him because I enjoy being abused. They are not in my shoes. He says he is a Christian and tells me I have to summit to him and I have to do what he says. I wish all the time he dissapears and God forgives me but I even wish he die. He broke my eye with a trash can 8 months ago. He chase me all the time around the house and talks to me like I am 10. I am not allowed to go out ( only for my kids medical appointments) he do grocery shopping and all kind of shopping because he says I will steal his money if I have his debit card. I wish I have the courage to leave.
哇. .我们是双胞胎,我和我的丈夫20年来,他的精神上,情感上,心理上,有时它会得到身体。但都认为我们有梦想生活,有时我们所做的。芭比和肯他们叫我们,我们不能获得足够的彼此,我们是分不开的,到最后! !美丽的知心伴侣,华丽的房子,在初中相识,结婚,22岁,确切的我们的1周年的日子,我们发现怀孕了! !我们的第一个孩子在24和我们最后的29岁。
我们有3个女儿,我也接近尾声时,没有大声的房子,不大声在我家里工作,最终,因为我使用优惠券和节省数百美元,花了太久,他会我给他留言他传呼我走出门口的时候,{{后孩子们在学校和家里是干净的,}}去杂货店购物,然后beep当我回到家时,我不得不保存收据来证明我的时间线,这花了我很长时间以来,他以为我有外遇和一袋男孩之类的,,所以我不再去! !也我与朋友共进午餐,除非他的妈妈和我妈妈去了。
我是呆在家里的妈妈,谁保持房子整洁和有组织,我的女友大声,但不是自己的丈夫在大多数情况下,标记成时间我们去一个家庭婚礼,男性家庭成员跟我说话以及女性,我的意思是我们都是家庭,他变得如此愤怒和嫉妒,我眼中的男人,他抢走了我的头发,真的把我像一个洞穴里的女人,没有人帮助我,但是我的岳母,哭泣,她说他只是嫉妒,爱我那么多,害怕他可能会失去我,他一直喝酒,等。实际上我婆婆是唯一一个谁知道虐待,直到他开始变得粗心,重要的是他对待我的方式很多,而不是关起门来,他跟我的女朋友调情,花了很多时间和他们在一起,我觉得他欺骗了我。我是盲人,他告诉我,我们结婚在上帝,他不会这样做,他们就像他的姐妹们,上帝放在一起,WO-man不可分开。这就是我的困惑了,我现在能够在任何情况下离婚!
唯一的男人大声我出去玩时,我想要的是我的父亲,和我做,他是我的一个最好的朋友,我们一起工作,一起杂货店购物,有组织的假期和菜单,直到他的心生病了,所以我是病人的倡导者,我在医院一天10 +小时。值得庆幸的是我们的女儿9、13和15岁。
我丈夫在家的时候他们从学校回家,每天晚上,我将开车回家从医院哭,因为我知道我的爸爸很快就会与主,我没准备好,甚至tho我知道因为他的心脏病在28岁,他的存活率是短,他超越了drs估计几十年,我们无所不谈,没有的话收回,我们非常接近,然而让他每天晚上都回家,我需要安慰我的丈夫,但我得到了呵呵,你终于回家了,我看到你涂指甲,化妆。博士你有染,他会闻到我的内衣,因为不同的原因,然后我眼泪。他的措辞是不喜欢我的,但是很粗俗,这是我很疲惫的从他的虐待。
我父亲通过2010年情人节是他的葬礼,不到一个星期后,我的丈夫让我在我的头从后面说到夫妇丈夫是我们的亲密的朋友,过来说对不起的,是我父亲,他们真正崇拜他。我说感谢他,他很喜欢,然后妻子喊道我的名字和繁荣,我认为天花板下降或她打我,不,这是我的丈夫,像往常一样,我总是离开的时候身体,去海边,坐在沙滩上,哭着上帝,帮助我与我的婚姻和我的父亲。我总是呆在一个不同的人,喜欢,我最好的朋友,母亲在法律,我的妈妈,我的奶奶,所以没有一个女人知道多少次我不得不逃跑,我总是返回第二天一早,假装什么也没发生。
一个轻易发怒的人增加了alcholosism volitile乘以10。是不同的这一次当他击中我,正常我离开,但我永远不会回去,与他20多年后,他说我是他的灵魂伴侣,我非常爱他。我们唯一爱更多的是上帝。我失去了我的父亲和丈夫就在同一个月,只有2人在我的生命中!神令我这样的和平后,我离开了他,现在就像关在笼子里的鸟能飞,第一次,我不可以呼吸,蛋壳上行走。令人震惊的是,每个人都我没有回复他。我有保护秩序,法官给了我的房子,孩子,狗和他的薪水。
在过去的十年我提高了我的孩子,我最小的只是几个月前搬了出去。
我和我丈夫仍然是结婚了,但是十年分离,因为神不喜欢离婚,我不知道如果我打破了词的神。或者我应该离婚神批准,我仍然爱他,他让我如此严重,在我们面前骂我女孩,我前面我们的女孩,虐待我,他从来不打我,只是一个打击,一些比其他时候,它很压倒性的和痛苦的。我跑到我的丈夫当我痛苦,但我没有一个跑到他造成的痛苦,我有上帝,至于我childrenm非常痛苦,我呆了孩子们,但我爸爸去世后,他最后一次打我,我有一个我以前从未有过的内在力量,并清晰地意识到,我必须离开我们的孩子。我做到了。我仍然不能相信它!
最终,他开始约会的男人的妻子,他最后一次打我,说话,接受慰问我的父亲,我在谈论! !我是她最好的朋友!没有输给我,伤害我。
一年后他开始约会一个朋友,我是她最好的朋友,因为她是一个年轻的少年,她实际上已经约会2前男友。我不介意,但是我的丈夫,就撕断了我的心! ! !他们都叫我聊天当我的丈夫坐在他们旁边,不知怎么的,我知道,两次,我只是给他的细胞,它在电话里响了! !哈哈. .破产!上帝给我的天使,告诉我。第二个朋友他现在约会超过5年,有时给我打电话问我我的丈夫在哪里,他是丑陋的,说谎等等,因为她知道他虐待我,她的一个朋友我会跑,从一个身体对抗和哭泣,相信她,她目睹了我们战斗,在过去的几十年里虐待我。我真的,给她建议,告诉她我很抱歉他对她这样做,我的意思是,她比我认为他会以不同的方式对待她,他一生的挚爱,我结束了你可以不再打电话给我关于你们的关系。痛苦的是,我将为你祈祷,对不起,
我们的女儿学习,父母的关系和爱是不正常的,我们甚至不知道什么是正常,我一直和我的丈夫因为我是18岁。有一天上帝和我的父亲一起发送一个天使。他们必须搜索高低来寻找这神奇的人,他住在一个不同的状态,3小时路程。它开始在电话里点和电子邮件后,我们会说上几个小时,小时每一天! !他帮助了我的网上珠宝生意开始,然后开始拜访我在我的家里,在房子的保养,我们成为了最好的朋友,然后我就爱,有史以来第一次,有一个人在家里,没有喊,诅咒,饮料或生气,谎言,开始争论,虐待我以任何方式都没有! !def是文化冲击对我和我女儿。这是不舒服,严重的奇怪,姑娘们就会说,你会大喊,你是一个定时炸弹! ! ! !我们都只是等待他生气和提前,随着时间的推移,最终,我们习惯了平静,开始欣赏它,因为他,女孩和我现在知道什么是正常的!我永远感谢这个人,一个令人难以置信的爱,平静,敬神,理解、可靠、诚实和惊人的例子,一个真正的谦虚的人。非自恋者,因为我从来没有听过这个词,直到我和我女儿去ALANON,和咨询后,我离开了。 I learned there are in general like 4 types, My husband was not one type, he literally fit all 4 categories! How dangerous and scary! What damage have I done to my children, they do have tons of excellent memories, for his apologies for fighting with mommy was gifts, vacations, going out on the boat etc,
我的女儿和朋友们说我遇见一个人喜欢你的男朋友,哈哈,,意义,一个非混乱好辩的,生气,但是,富有同情心,爱心,冷静,相信交际关系!我们已经约会将近9年,他仍然生活3小时路程。然而他几天一周的周末,他是一个好基督徒的人尊重我,女孩。一开始,他花了晚上在我妈妈的房子,和我一起的日子,直到多年以后,他开始住在楼上,在空着的房间里,青蛙在我的农场的房子,我现在独自生活,我不知道如果我有空巢综合症,我不这么认为! !哈哈我的男朋友现在一个人住在他的房子,他的儿子今年也搬出他的家。
我应该开始我人生中新的一页在一个特定的方式,像,卖我的家和裁员,成为完全独立的,直到我弄明白神是我真正结婚和丈夫离婚吗?
我很困惑,如果我把我的话给上帝,爱我的丈夫,直到死亡将我们分开。我应该留在我现在的男朋友,去寻找解决办法和我丈夫十年的分离之后,他已经停止喝酒4年前,在我们的孙女出生后一年。我觉得拥有的最重要的事情是你的字,我只不过高压的话,我的话,上帝和我的诺言我做了我的丈夫在神。我们的结婚誓言——我真的不知道上帝想让我做什么,我想要他做的,不是我自己的。我希望上帝带领我,指引我,告诉我,保护我,保佑我,我们所有人。
对我来说第一次评论或在线交流,对我的婚姻少得多。我做的Facebook,但没有戏剧挂在我的墙上,什么都没有。所以欢呼我的第一个博客,在线交流如此严重深,不确定我帮助任何人,或者只是帮助自己?
你的故事很相似,我和我的朋友除了他从来没有过滤。我丈夫的25年并不总是这样。但是他改变了他指责我欺骗当我所做的是向我高中时认识的一位老朋友。看到他不希望我从事与男性交谈一直是嫉妒。为什么我没有看到过去当我们第一次连接。我希望我能回去并保持单身。年过去,他一直是更多的控制和嫉妒。最近2019年7月一直问我,我一直在和谁散步时我需要的房子远离他。他不再是退休了,我不再奏效。我为自己没有空间他的房子,也几乎没有朋友没有社交生活他没有太多的孤独的人,他只是关注我.... I hate everything about my situation and this has been going on for decades. Been married for 25 years. I’m Christian too. I know God would not want me to live this way. I want out but it’s not always this easy. He constantly threatens me with financial emotional verbal abuse at times physical. Never admits it and never apologized he’s a narcissist I truly believe this. He and I have been verbally abusive for-decades to one another. I don’t like him I really hate him why can’t he just accept this. He tells me I get nothing has taken things away from me to punish me. I don’t have many friends he made it this way. Why was I so stupid and naive to be under his control for this long. I believe he brainwashed me and told me I could never survive without him. He has pitted my kids against me and they take his side. Thank god my sister and brother and my mom know what I’m going through and they do not like him what so ever. They tell me to get out. This guy has put me through hell and back and yet I’m still here. 50 years old and alone and scared and afraid. Signed, MW from Canada
我在一个非常相似的情况。我将在20年的婚姻。滥用我们订婚后开始。如果我只知道现在我所知道的。他有一个虐待的童年。5年前我们搬了我的工作。自那以后,变得让人难以忍受。他叫我的名字,没有女人应该被称为,尤其是她的丈夫。之后,他终于找到了一份工作5年的我支付一切。他晚上工作在本周我孤独。 I actually look forward to going home, no stress, and I can do what I want. And then the weekend comes. He is constantly yelling at me, calling me names, belittling me. He knows my insecurities and what would hurt me and he goes for the jugular every time. He is an alcoholic and says everything is always my fault. He berated me yelling and saying the same things over and over. He said no one will ever want me that is why I wasn’t married at 32 when we met. He has told me to go get a gun and shoot myself in the head.i have lost 35 pound because he is not around during the week so I don’t emotionally eat and can go workout. He tells me that I am selfish for working out yet every thing is always based on his needs and wants. He stays up late and sleeps al day on the weekends. He does nothing around the house. I never get a compliment or appreciation for all I do. I hate him and am ready to go when he is in one of his tirades but the next day comes and I become afraid for my marriage to end. I am lonely but afraid of being alone. The work and all that would need to happen in a divorce is overwhelming and I don’t want to loose what we have built. What is wrong with me. I know it is a toxic relationship and I deserve better yet I don’t file for divorce. I am anger, ashamed and disappointed in myself.
嗨,特蕾西,
和你没有错。这只是发生在滥用循环。我赞赏你分享你的心在这里鼓励你伸手帮忙。你并不孤单,你不需要这样的生活。这里有一些资源开始://www.lharmeroult.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-refer…
只要记住善待你自己在这个过程中。这不是你的错。你是爱。
爱与光明——简
嗨. .同样在阅读评论评论后我的情况我非常难过!我结婚时我遇到我现在的男朋友……我现在和我的前任丈夫的关系是一个身体上的暴力…和我遇见我的男朋友在工作. .他和我成为朋友的坏. .他成为我最好的朋友,我会和他谈谈一切……所以当我和前女友分手我男朋友和我一起开始花时间外下班然后它变成更多…他是甜的……听我说话… paid attention to me... noticed when I got a hair cut of whatever... I fell for him hard!! After about a year we were together... and I thought it was perfect thought I found the person who was my person.. u know... until one day it all changed... started with something little that I over looked... thought he was just having a bad day... but it has all gotten worse... I had my past thrown in my face... choices I made .. bad things that have happened to me... being. Told I deserve it! Being called worthless lazy no good! EverThing mean you can think mean to say to someone he has said it.. I have pretty much cut myself off from my family bc I have ran to them several times after a fight saying I was leaving and after a week and he calms down it’s all back to me loves me and so on and on... I always come back! I have 3 kids and one of them is his and he is now 5 months old... so I keep saying if I could make it 10 years in a physically abusive relationship I can make it through this but honestly I feel as if mental abuse is so much worse... bc it gets in you head and you think and it over and over... am I really worthless?? Do I really deserve bad things to happen to me? Am I really fat or ugly?? And the truth is when living this way you believe it to a fault almost bc it’s drilled into your head!! I’m always thinking about how great it was when we were friends how attentive he was how loving and caring... and I hold out o. Hope that one day he will open his eyes and realize that he is hurting me badly! But I don’t think it will ever happen!! I want to leave but I don’t!! I stay bc I’m stuck or at least that is how I feel!! When is enough gonna be enough for me to say I am done?? Y am I not strong enough to walk away from him? And stay gone! Y do I always answer the phone when I leave and let him fill my head with all these promises of change when I know in my heart it’s a lie!! Family says I’m just not ready to go! And after reading this article... I am but scared I will just come right back! And it will pick up like I never Left bc he feels as if there is no repercussions for his actions or words... bc I will come back!! I wish I felt strong enough to cut all ties but with my son I don’t think I ever will!
当你真的没有地方去吗?我有一个8个月大的婴儿。没有车。他为他生气一想到我有一个工作。(独立)朝着我的父母就是一个虐待关系。我用来发光和控制我的生活。我已经从以前的虐待关系等近10 +个月,直到我发现他。是初中和高中的前情人。和我只是无害的乐趣。但后来我怀孕和婴儿也很兴奋,他想维持这个家族。 I always dreamed of having a baby with someone who actually wanted to be there. I decided to keep her. Then the abuse started. He hit me the first couple times and I cried uncontrollable. Confused on why he didn't just leave. Too late to run. 2 years later (21yrs old) he will be nice and try hard one day but almost every day he is mean. He snaps at me and always talks over me, (just like everyone else) he lately has been calling me crazy which just was the last straw. I put up with his beatings, name callings, put downs, his sudden burst of anger.. ect. But I'm crazy because I grumpy when I have to wake up at 3 in the morning to get a bottle ready for the baby. I kinda feel like a candle at the very end of its wic. I often contemplate just taking off but I can't leave my daughter. I won't. I'm not sure what to do. I'm afraid one day itll end with suicide or him hurting me badly enough to kill me. Very lost
你好Elix:我很抱歉听到你已经发生了什么!你不值得。我希望你会考虑接触有人接近你,朋友或家庭成员,他们可以帮助你制定计划逃离这种关系。也有资源你可以把如果你觉得没有一个能跟你聊天的人。请访问我们的网页//www.lharmeroult.com/abuse/domestic-violence/how-to-report-domestic-violence-dome…也许能够帮助的组织。如果你感到有自杀倾向,也有可以说话的人可以跟你谈谈你的感受。我们的页面
//www.lharmeroult.com/suicide/suicide-hotline-phone-numbers是一个开始的地方。你不必独自经历这个。谢谢你留下这个消息和寻求帮助。
你会怎么做如果你看你妹妹情感虐待,但她不承认吗?她的同事告诉她,我看到它并告诉她,他对她不好。这个人甚至威胁我的丈夫和我们提交了一份报告。她知道这一切,也知道当它发生了,但他“试图道歉”,是足够好的。她是坏了,他是一个精神病患者。
我一直和我的家伙了13年,我发誓我忍受辱骂是疯了!是的,他总是试图让事情变得更好的道歉,“太醉”,他说,或者“我”把他的按钮,他这样做一遍又一遍,我还带他回来。我只需要最后终结这个疯狂的周期和足以走开。是的,我们住在一起,但没有孩子。
我和我的丈夫生活了近3年了,我们几乎有一个2岁的女儿在一起,说实话我觉得困。起初都是宝贝多维。他总是去拜访我在我的父母家里,奇怪我玫瑰,泰迪熊,项链,食物,甚至是小狗。他是如此的爱和关怀。然而,交往了两年之后,他开始向我有点被滥用。(我们仍然是男朋友和女朋友),如果他不喜欢我说的东西,他将压力我的手很紧或扭曲我的胳膊,直到我不能带走我的悲伤。我哭了好几次,但越过。像这是酷和继续我们的关系。也许因为我是如此如此的爱上他,因为我认为他是最帅的,最可爱的人(身体),18岁,我搬进了他,这是所有好第一个两三个月。然而,他不想让我去我妈妈家或我朋友的房子。 My Bestfriend came over one day and I told him she was here. (He was working) ThIS MAN LEAVES HIS WORK AND COMES HOME TO KICK MY BESTFRIEND OUT THE HOUSE. I felt so embarrassed because she has been my Bestfriend since middle school.
我真的有那么多对这个男人说。当我怀孕时,他打我的鼻子让我流血。他已经离开我一个肿胀的眼睛,很多很多的瘀伤,踢了我与他的保护工作鞋,几乎打破了我的鼻子,打了我好几次了。他甚至打我当我的女儿在我的手中。(她是约6个月)不断的争吵和在家大声喊叫。每次他大叫或提高他的声音在我试图捍卫自己和他说“闭嘴否则我会揍你的。“我太累了。它实际上即使是怪异的,当我们谈论和平。有一天,我要去我妈妈家,他将要离开回到工作(约下午1点)我进屋,告诉他,我不是要去符合卡车,所以我告诉他(他的作品卡车)他很生气他对我大喊大叫。他告诉我,我为什么如此急于离开(记住我妈妈下午3点)这就是我告诉他。我的卡车,他来打开乘客门,让我住在我妈妈家里,从不回来,如果我回来他会踢我了。 He then slammed the door shut and I started crying. I felt like shit honestly. I knew if I left he was gunna leave me and I didn’t want that. I stayed in the truck for about 15 minutes just thinking. And asking God Why I’m living this life. I don’t have the courage to leave him because I have no where to go. I know my parents will always be there for me but I don’t want to go back to their house. Unfortunately My Brothers girlfriend passed away in my moms house right next to my old room and honestly I feel scared to go back. I have never worked in my life and my daughter is sooo attached to me that I doubt she’d stay with someone to watch or babysit her while I work. I feel stuck. We depend on him money wise.
现在我很害怕。我从没想过我会让一个男人这样对待我。2年前我和一次又一次地受到了沉重的打击,生活,结束我的瘫痪。我最终逃离父母的房子(我在30年代,长故事),他们还没有原谅我我是如何做到的。和我的男朋友已经有一年了,他不是伟大的开始,但它是升级到完整的疯狂。可以写一本书他所做的事情。最后几个月他开始性侵犯我,然后让我担心我的生活,邻居打电话给警察,我一直守口如瓶,所以他没有被逮捕。为什么? ? ? ?终于昨天告诉我妈妈。我知道她告诉全家但是没有人联系我。 Yes I've been isolated, am bipolar, but i never hurt anyone, used drugs, anything that would make them hate me. She's telling me I have to leave him, now I'm so scared of leaving him. When he wasn't bad, he was so sweet & took such good care of me. But the bad started to become every day, and he crossed too many lines. Why am I so afraid of leaving him? It's like he's my only friend and only person that cares about me, but i know he's a narcissist. I don't even think he means to isolate me or make my self esteem crash, like it only happens when he drinks, but for months he drank every day. He's paying my rent now and he's at his mom's, but I'm still texting/talking to him. Feel like I'm the crazy one, I must be. Why would I want to stay with someone who has assaulted me in every way possible almost every Day?
我正在考虑如何离开我的孩子的父亲13年。我们有3个从1年到13。我今天33岁。他也有3个青少年我培养了13年,谁不想与我们居住了由于他们父亲的行为。更情感虐待身体。年前我完全收敛,显然剥夺了在他的朋友面前,触及另一个朋友的腿,所以对于这些原因,他告诉我那就是为什么他对待我的方式。我接受了它,虽然我不能记得我接受他给我我应得的待遇。但是我经常不知道还要多少年他会责怪我吗?他叫我妓女,混蛋各种恶性名称前面的阳光下的我们所有的孩子和尴尬。非常罕见的我将会提高我的声音或顶嘴,他或者不可能。 I dont want to get hit so most times i just shut my mouth. Hes 15 years older me, ive heard all the attempts to change under the sun but still none. I am quiet independant, pay my own rent and other utulitys, have a job ect. I love his kids like they are my own have nurtured them like they are mine but i feel like nothings ever good enough. He damages anything that is mine or means alot to me when hes mad. The most recent was a photo of my late nan who i dearly love, he ripped it up, that really hurt! My house has holes in the wall and he spits in my house. He talks to all our kids about me. I worked 6 days last week and wanted to have a beer. I didnt go out knowing he also had work the next morning, so i invited my cousin around to have a quiet one with me. We were still going when he left for work at half 4 in the morning and still going when he finished 2 hours later. He threw a fit and started yelling at me because the house wasnt cleaned. I dont get it, my house is clean it was his own bedding in the lounge, we only had a 24 box of beers and a bottle of whiskey which were all put away in the empty box as i normally do. I just removed myself because i didnt want to deal with it while i was intoxicated. But when i came home he tells me he kicked out his oldest boy who is 19. He tried telling me it was his boys fault but I knew it was his! Everytime someone or something stresses him out, everyone in our household cops it! He calls his older sons all sorts of names and even a few times have told them to hang themselves. He says if i try and take my kids away from him, hes going to kill my dad and anyone else i love and care about. I sorta believe him. He has big knives, like swords and bow and arrows. I think he is capable of doing it. I have witnessed him stab another guy with a pitchfork because he tried to threaten our family. I want to leave. But aPart of me believes i can change him and i still deeply care about him. Im not sure if its love though, i think that feeling left a couple of years ago. He saved me from a very physically abusive relationship where every second day i was black and blue and i feel like i owe him my life but i also have kids and am done allowing to witness all this craaazy stuff!! I have left for a couple of days at times and allowed the kids to stay behind with him because they love their dad buuut iii juuust cant do it. I cry and get all depressed knowing that they are not with me. I think about taking them with me but i know my kids will miss him and i feel sorry for them and him. I dont want cops or to drag my children through court..Financially i pay for most of the things in our family home so i couldnt even get us a hotel room and i wouldnt take my kids to just anywhere i want it to be homely so we are all comfortable like we are at home. He knows where all my friends and family live but im too embarrassed to stay at either houses anyway and i dont want to bring trouble to them..2 of my kids are in school and today i have been helping his teens find suitable accomodation for them, one of whom is 22 and carrying a baby..It seems like of got too many odds against me...Thank you for the article and all the stories many have shared.
嗨,伙计们,
本文已经帮助了我。我的妻子永远不会犯错。她经常让我批评和赞美/验证。其所有关于她的希望和需求。我是看不见的,除了当她需要一个人来发泄她的愤怒。她脾气一触即发,让我沉默和冷淡。我的自信是最低的。我将会呆在哪?我不知道,但有一天我会的。说,我为什么要呆在一起的人经常伤害我吗?
我有虐待关系一个人。我们roomues已有12年。3 y前真正的人出来了。他削减我的衣服。他破坏我们购买的房子不断唠叨我工作。运行下来之际,我喜欢他会打我。我有没人。无处可去,我高级。谁会认为我的黄金年是地狱。我将很容易但是没有足够的钱独自生活。 I dont know what to do. Now hes killing my garden. Cuts the sunflower heads off. Turns the garden hose on all nite. I pay the water. I talked to a buddy that works with him he said the BOSS is afraid of him. Where can i go?
去年,我知道我的丈夫所做的只是把我当他和他的朋友们,煤气灯。我丈夫特别自恋的天赋让我认为我疯了。所以我开始跟踪一切通过写日记。读了在过去的15年里的一切都是困难的。我现在更多的授权,但我觉得不足够强大或者有朋友或家人的支持,因为他使我从他们。我感到孤立和不知道去哪里寻求帮助。感谢你让我知道它是好的。现在,我将研究和获得建议。很难做他想要知道的一切,我去哪里,我做什么,我跟等等。我不想恨我的丈夫但没有对他的爱离开我。我很生气,很容易被欺骗。 Angry at myself and my husband being so cold to me that I just wanted to shrivel up and die. Waking up to what is going on , I mean really going on, was hard. But I know now that I'm by far more internally strong because of what I've had to put up with over the years. It will take time, life is too short to waste it on people who profess they love you, but more likely need you.
它在我的关系,老实说我觉得4年困. .就像住在家里再一次. .我几乎不去拜访家人我必须问我如果我可以去任何地方,经常吼. .归咎于我得到一切,我害怕说错了东西。Idk我需要再次感到整个,我需要我回去
只是想谢谢你……我一直都braainstorming和做没完没了的研究o盛会是我的生活. .这是第一个真正的真正的钝后我和经过连续下跌,很高兴进步. .谢谢你！永不放弃,但生活是一场战斗。知识理解剂量确实有帮助
我和施虐者已经13年了自从我17岁他是我所知道的了我从来没有工作,他显然已经清楚我的一切都是他的,因为他为它支付。他确信我没有人但他,,我恨不能自己最后没有时间。他说他跟在乎我离开但我不把我们的两个孩子。但是没有办法我可以留下我的孩子。我想到一场跑步和他们躲了起来,但我没有钱,他说他会伤害每一个人可能会帮我找他的孩子,他情绪低落我很久了,每天都在某种程度上我认为我不值得我呼吸的空气。我没有或没有去哪里,我不能与我的孩子们无家可归。我爱他但我不爱上他了,我刚刚是我人生经历的运动冷杉这么长时间我很不开心我就不能忍受了。每次他离开我和孩子离开我感觉就像一个巨大的重量已经从肩膀上卸下。我不知道去哪里无机玻璃钢我我怎么重新开始没有人或没有请别人帮助我
我不会满意自己如果我不广播的接触细节的人帮助我让我的爱人回来. .这种强大的施法者的名字是Dr.Akpada和他的联系方式是:(akpadatemple@hotmail.com)或whatssap + 27844130246。这个法术施法者是如此的强大,以至于他能在48小时内把我的前女友回到我,这是为什么我就建议人们,有问题在联系Dr.Akpada有关系