逃避虐待关系:治疗师保持安静

我现在离开了5年的虐待关系。
滥用现在发生在我五岁的儿子,当他看望他的爸爸。
我感到无助,我无法保护我的儿子。
直到最近我儿子报道他被他的父亲被洒在地板上的东西。
不相信我的儿子披露的孩子服务。
我能做什么?

你不为他的行为负责
(这里anjel和其他天使)

我已经在9月后单身近10年来的关系。我终于让别人真正的把我的所有给这个人。错误的指控几乎立刻就开始了。3周在了解彼此,我们是在一个深夜的电话在工作时。在几周内两次的我被指控与另一个男人做爱,和他在电话上。他指责我碰巧与我最好的朋友的丈夫。我不能理清我的思绪。我知道,我不会做任何事情的,当然他必须相信我不是那种人做一些恐怖和恶心。接下来的9个月,我试图说服他,我没有那个人同时任何和他口头攻击我一有机会,他就开始说,他不相信我,每次我们在公共场合我流浪的眼睛。一遍又一遍,我发现自己被口头攻击他错误地指责我。 It got as bad as being accused of wanting his brother. I did everything to try and reassure him that I was a good person that had no intention on hurting or playing games. I began feeling emotionally battered. No matter positive I did he would praise me and act grateful but I knew the verbal assault would soon follow. I find myself putting an end to a relationship I thought I would manage to hold together but failed. My feelings are scrambled and confusing but I’m pretty sure my only option is to leave the relationship. In a sense I feel a little sadness for him. I don’t know how else to feel.

我有一个情感和精神的恶霸,气体灯我所有的时间。他他的残疾,我支持我们帮助他把他的残疾。然而,他是一个mssive赌徒拒绝辞职或说他放弃他的方式就是通过减慢。他不能在他的名字从公用事业或财产以前的债务,和2个小女孩从先前的婚姻。1生孩子一直是我的人生目标,这已经是最接近的j。但我想逃避心理和情感虐待。它控制我。如果我离开他的世界天翻地覆,所以将我爱的孩子。他威胁要扭曲他买的车,但在我的名字和我支付。其拥有的我觉得他欠我的我已经工作了,他吹美元。 I feel trapped by empathy and it's suffocating the life out of me. He says everything is my fault and in my mind. I question everything no matter how much I try to stay strong. I'm crumbling.

昨晚我和gilrfriend说,当我发现,几天前,她即将成为前男友,她试图打破后,不仅强奸了她,但也不仅威胁要杀死她,但她的母亲如果她试图去报警。她还说,她拥有强大的自残欲望、和所有这一切,她太累了,她只是想死…
最现在,我想知道的是该做什么或说或她为了帮助应对这一切尽我所能。
任何建议将不胜感激。
谢谢你！
约翰·l·施赖伯

我躺在床上哭,感觉对不起我的前任合伙人8年(与)我有一个7岁的女儿。
我主要情感虐待经历但全心全意物理(戴上嘴唇头和脸)。此外他患有精神病/可能是精神分裂症但他纵然诊断为拒绝帮助。我感到内疚,我不得不收拾行李,离开我的女儿和我的父母住一起数千英里之外。他不会回复任何人的电话或短信。他有时只是电话,挂断了电话。自己的家人说我要回到我的父母但J仍然觉得不好知道他一定是在可怕的状态。
任何建议都是感激。

我有一个朋友在“后”阶段。我想帮助她度过罪责感和运行回到感觉通缉他。但我不知道该说什么或做……我不能联系,我不想被粗鲁的…任何建议她可能需要从一个朋友吗?

我发现我无法停止颤抖。我欺负了他的整个家庭,现在是时候来拯救自己。我想我呆,直到我们的儿子要去上大学了。他已经1年了。他回家过感恩节的地狱。我40岁的继子,叫做祝大家感恩节快乐,除了我。我知道这听起来并不多,但它增加了列表的行为接受每个人。没有人说,粗鲁或为什么会一个人自称是一个基督徒,是可恶的这个节日吗?我的丈夫不能跟我说话,它必须是一个责备的语气。恐吓是他唯一的方式。 I feel like a whipping post. I am disabled from numerous spinal fusions so it makes the escape harder. How can I get 2 suitcases out the door to a cab? My son is my only family as everyone else has died. ZERO support but I know I have to get out before I literally end up in a padded room. Stay away from narcissists. The whole family has this gene. Marrying into another culture cannot always work. Jamaican family has never been kind to me ever. 26 years of hell. No more~

我很惊讶和失望当我没有神奇地回到我之前的人的关系。复苏是困难的。每天都是地狱。复苏一样糟糕的虐待。我独自一人没有支持系统,没有人相信我。回顾我知道离开和中断联系是我做过最好的决定。我仍然取得进展。我很高兴我没有放弃,即使我想。

我是治疗师和我们做的解释病人情感过山车之后你逃避任何虐待关系。我们不打算伤害我们的病人,我们解释一切,帮助病人。否则请不要说。经历的人逃离一个虐待关系需要治疗的过程。谢谢你！

我的前女友开始滥用我怀孕了,发现他是一个女孩发短信2015年2月,只有6个月我们的关系。Anouar el Allati说他爱我,和想要孩子。我发现另一个女孩在他的电话他已经接触不当,和我来找出他此前迷住了,我面对他。他失去了它,打破了我的电话,餐桌,掐死我。我怀孕12周。我打电话给警察,这成为了近2年的感情的开始和身体虐待,常数心理游戏,追踪我的位置在我的电话,隔离我从朋友,贬低我,说谎,偷窃和赌博,把钱藏在独立账户所以他没有付房租,天结束,他将消失喝和年轻女孩与他的失败者和吸毒的朋友,不断闯入我的手机和电脑监控我在做什么。我怀孕了,害怕,我不知道该做什么。我刚刚搬到阿姆斯特丹,从纽约问,我试过所以很难相信所有的谎言他告诉我为了我和怀孕。他在玩我,使用我整个时间。我买了一个滑板车我们可以避开,他可以去他的新工作。 It was under his name because I am not from the NL and he told his friend that he would steal it for insurance money if we didn't work out. He would hide my much-needed prescription medication on me, and then say he didn't take it. He was so intimidated by me, that he worked to systematically destroy me. The woman he claimed he loved and the future mother of his child. I couldn't understand or wrap my head around it. Why would this man who promised me the world, steal, lie, cheat, and make me think I was being crazy or paranoid?! I supported him financially a bit, and he was so ungrateful and mean, and always hid money and lied to me about it. He promised to help and pay me back when he got a job. We got asked to leave apartments because of the abuse and complaints from the neighbors and I lost at least 5,000 in security deposits. He would call the police and play the victim. It was absolute insanity.
我支付我们的假期米克诺斯,他用力打我当他喝醉了,他打破了我的耳膜。他离开了岛乘船回到阿姆斯特丹,整个旅程将已经24小时。我打电话给他,并为他支付飞机回台湾,有那么多的怜悯和仁慈。这个人肯定无法远离罪恶。我看到当他到达他指的是我“婊子”他的兄弟他的电话,即使那天我一直身体虐待,已经受伤,刚从地狱救了他的船和飞机前往阿姆斯特丹。有很多女孩在他的电话,他回来并承诺这个或那个。
我怀孕后再终止的问题,我发现他的短信他的前妻在史基浦机场工作。我给她,她证实了他问她是不是单身。这是当我在怀孕和来访的家人在爱尔兰。他否认一切,它毁了我的整个旅行。
他是最终的骗子,教科书式的自恋型人格障碍。不久之后,我便失去了第二次怀孕,他指责我,说我应该克服它。我们休息了几周的时间在1月和他回到我们的家里,生活和去治疗和更好的我们的关系。Anouar承诺我,哀求我,它将是不同的。他应该和我一起去健身房一天,相反,我跟踪了他和他的朋友们在糖工厂(夜总会)浪费在粒摇头丸。他说他很抱歉,告诉我回家的。那天晚上当我们回到家里时,我发现一个女孩在他的电话他已经叫了一整夜与汗水emoji来迎接他,等。她18岁,是一个情人男孩街女孩。他声称,将其归咎于他的朋友。在他的电话他甚至改变了她的名字,所以他可以假装他不知道她是谁。她发给我的短信,我崩溃了。 He promised it was a huge mistake and he was messed up on drugs and it would never happen again.
我们去温泉度假,回来后,我们做在一起,他洗澡,他的电话了,我看到一些女孩发来的一条短信,他要求她的号码。我崩溃了,把自己锁在我的天井,吼他离开。他拒绝了。我走进我们家,骂他,他脸上用力打我两次,我的耳环飞走了。我为他离开尖叫,寻求帮助。然后他开始冲我用一个封闭的拳头。我告诉他他是一个狗娘养的,他就更加困难。我有瘀伤,伤口和擦伤了我的头部和身体。他掐死我,我几乎昏倒了在多个场合,然后回家与划痕或扯掉衣服,告诉家人我是“滥用他”。不真实。
谢谢你的支持!我给了这个反社会的自恋者的另一个机会,那么愚蠢。我刚发现他所有的秘密Facebook, Instagram,和电子邮件账户,他是付费性账户,和被追逐女人从他的过去。我也发现他试图shemale有经验。这些都是不正常!我皈依伊斯兰教,他向我保证我们能过上更好的生活在一起。他失去了他的心,当我发现和打我,掐死我,告诉我他又会杀了我的。我试图相信他毕竟我们已经通过。他承认他是病态,我挂在这么长时间的人只是生病了,我开始觉得疯狂。我们需要提醒自己远离Anouar Allati, Anouar莫塔,Anouar el Allati类型的世界。 They will suck you dry and leave your life in shambles if you let them. I came from NYC with my law degree to the Netherlands, and thought I'd settle down with a nice Amsterdam guy and build a life together. He played that part, but it all wore off until I could seee the monster behind the mask. I am putting my life back together, but it is hard to wrap my head around the abuse and psychotic things I endured for two years. My whole life as I know it with this man I loved and adored, was a complete lie. I wish I had listened to the people around him who warned me he was no good. I will be more cautious in the future, and I forgive and feel badly for someone who is so mentally ill. I know I can get better, but that type of narcissist never will. Please take care of yourselves, my fellow survivors.

我一直在一个情感虐待关系4年了。第一个5年超过我能要求,我是最幸福的女人活着。我的丈夫认为我作弊,同时开始吸毒。这是我噩梦的开始。他经常指责我我不做的事情,和我说话我垃圾,说他会打我虽然从未但事情就变得越来越差。我的孩子只是坐在通过大声呼喊和尖叫喜欢是很正常的。我完全排干。我感到孤独和害怕。为什么我如此害怕离开?我知道我必须。 I have always hung on to hope that he would change back into the man he used to be but I now realize that is not going to happen. I feel like I lost the wonderful man I had plans of spending the rest of my life with. I now have he opportunity to leave after feeling stuck and alone with no help for so long but why do I feel so guilty? Why am I so scared? I know I have to get out of my situation now but why I am struggling with making that first step when I know how toxic my relationship is and how it's damaging my son. I just feel completely drained and sick. I'm not looking forward to the long road of struggling to get myself back on my feet yet I can't stand to live this nightmare one more second.

我和我的成年子女遭受非停止虐待肆虐,可耻的评论,再分类威胁我们的生计来源。我感到很内疚,我的孩子都是他们叫父亲的伤痕累累。他是慷慨的错,我们过上富裕的生活,但这一切意味着什么当他的愤怒和愤怒的丑只是爆炸的。我最近受伤,脑外伤。与他在一辆车他口头虐待我,威胁我。我劝他有一些cinsideration但他说“滚开你受伤。”This from a man I have nursed through multiple injuries and surgeries. We took a road trip to a resort town. QOn the way there he drove like a maniac to scare me. HE cursed and screamed the whole way. When we arrived there I was so depleted I had to go to bed at 5 in the afternnon. The trip was miserable. once home i felt distanced from him. I had finally admitted if I stay this is my life to the end. Fear, verbal bause, and anxiety. What drives me to finally end it is him now abusing my oldest son over a business deal. I have had enough! Sentiment and nothing but bad memories are the realit. I cannot ride out my last days on earth with this monster. QI now admit my entire life with himhas never been happy pr safefor me. My heart breaks o er theain my children have gone through. ALadies, know that I am finally totally walking away! QIm free!

情感虐待我的前女友,我刚刚真的承认自己是花了几个月失踪的他,想要他回来。这是最长的我没有和他说过话(3周),我终于可以看到,虽然我爱他,他也不打算伤害别人——他的行为是一致的和重复的滥用在每一个关系模式。处理情绪的感觉我施虐者已经拒绝了迄今为止我最困难的经历。
他现在是在与一个好朋友的关系。我还没有告诉她他的虐待,但他之前的前女友写了几年前在facebook上发表公开声明披露他的虐待和许多其他女人评论证实这一点。我想发邮件她这个匿名的联系。这是一个坏主意吗?你想让你的朋友知道或我只是怨天尤人?我还和她的朋友但我觉得直接来自我只会嫉妒的样子。只是嫉妒吗?

我一直在虐待关系近6年现在我有两个孩子在虐待关系,希望过上这样的生活,但我不能因为我害怕拳和威胁

没有人有权以任何方式伤害你的故意。他们有心理虐待女人的态度。这不是你的错。跑掉任何你可以…它只会变得更糟as they will "punish" you more.you can't fix them and make treat you nice...ever!

我目前在一个婚姻,是的,我试图离开,但说话如果我离开不会能再见到我儿子这么痛我,这一次我们去一些老人,他们对我们说,这里的建议是让我给他一次机会,但我不认为这是个好主意看到接下来的一个星期他又做了同样的事,一直对自己说我要告诉我的家人但我担心他们会做什么,他不给我空间什么都不做,我告诉一个朋友,她告诉我要离开他,但是他不会让我离开。财务不但是我不能这样做没有,我需要去但我不知道,我有非常重要的疾病,恐怕它会发生当我别管我和我儿子,那里将没有人帮助他,如果我发生了什么事情,然后我感到内疚,想要留下他,只是让他有更好的机会。所以我做的就是坐下来哭我自己睡觉。请帮助我。

逃避的恐惧将悲剧就是阻止人们离开。

这是5天左右,我逃出了我的施虐者,我已经疯了11天。我相信我会回来,我一直做的事情。我最后的关系是一样的。他进了监狱,我就把他从我的生活。一年后,我遇到了我现在的施虐者,他跑到一个繁忙的行为。他窒息我,窒息我的传球,涂黑几次我的眼睛,,不管在什么情况下可能他总是责备我,总是我的错。他不是adusive在他之前的关系。最后一个说,但是他真的是. .有时我认为我把它放到我的自我。我有毒瘾和我的生活方式和选择是我被滥用的原因的一部分,但说实话我之前被身体虐待的记忆。我的母亲是一个非常虐待人。 It's been years since I have even spoke to her and I slowly began cutting of contact with all my family and it seems like the more I cut family of the more abused I was. I wish I could change my past but I know that's not possible, I'm almost certain things i wont do much better for my future. I do love the Lord with all my heart and I'm thankful that I have him to be with me and comfort me especially when I feel like I'm in the war zone and I'm going to die at the hands of a man that claims he loves me. Sometimes I welcome death..that's where victory is for me. If I am able to stay away from him this time, I am going to help women like me. If I go back, well there's no doubt that he will be the death of me and hopefully someone reading this will relate to my story and save themselves.

我在一个可怕的关系。我总是谷歌阅读和真实的自己,我不是唯一的一个。我的男朋友是阿拉伯语…穆斯林。之前我和他只有3个月怀上我的儿子。他开始打我,打我,我怀孕了。他多次入狱虐待我. .他把我打晕一次,让我在医院因为我藏在我的母亲的房子。我很后悔没有紧迫的指控。我的儿子是一个岁,我今晚被滥用超过每一个我让他吃饭,我坐在桌子上做作业,因为他邀请的人的态度了,我们一直在争论他最近总是和他的朋友们。 He came and struck me and threw all of the food that I made all over me and all over the kitchen, yesterday he punched me in my lips so I had a fat lip all day today. I stay with him because I'm scared, I'm scared my plans of leaving him will fail and then I will really get it. I don't know what to do... he tells me I'm ugly, he can't stand me... so why won't h just let me go? He tells me to leave my son with him and I can go. I'm really so desperate but I am so scared. He knows where my mom lives he knows where I go to school... I am so skinny from how depressed I am, I don't even eat because it makes me sick to my stomach. I dont know what I did to deserve this, I don't know why he hates me so much when I do everything for him a woman should do. Getting the police involved I feel like they won't do much. I just feel like I'm going to end up dead. I don't want to do this anymore and I wish I can just get out. If you are in an wbusive relationship I would just recommend to leave when you have the chance because these kind of people will never change. I feel so grossed out when I see him, I hate when he touches me.

我祈祷你找到内在的力量在你神赐福给你,爱你,不让你通过生活不幸的人可以看到的潜在在我们之前,我们看到它自己的任务是阻止可能但你们都将成为你besire和mi的前女友的一切告诉我,我就会没有他的事情现在我有更多的然后他你必须做某事你从来没有做你去你从未去过的地方(追逐你的梦想)他们永远不会意识到如果它总是有上帝保佑你寻求你壳牌发现自由

我一生一直充满了滥用。当我15岁我开始和一个人出去是几岁他开始降温,花钱在我身上,让我感觉自己像个公主一样. .我只有17岁的时候发现我怀孕了。我决定留下孩子。他慢慢地开始展示他的真正的颜色。这里开始推动和推动这里然后打一打。我肯定你知道。他对我来说是可怕的但他是一个可靠和稳定的父亲。我们分手了,我有几年在我自己的周末,他会带我们的儿子. .但我真的开始挂不这么好的人群,做事情我不为我的儿子感到骄傲的父亲允许我和我的儿子在和他在一起,直到我回到我的脚。虽然我们不在一起时他开始再次被虐待,时间的推移和滥用,更容易处理在一段时间然后离开,我自己做。我很害怕。我没有家人的支持,我很害怕。但是我遇到了一个人我以为只会是我在闪亮的盔甲的骑士是我的噩梦。他答应照顾我,不要伤害我。i have some mental health issues i have bipolar and manic depessive i collect ssi so my income and choices are limited..but anyway my sons father decided to throw me and all my stuff out in the street in front of the house.all because he was tired of me living there he met a girl and she didnt like the fact that i lived there so he threw me out.i had just met this guy so i didnt know him very well he said i could come stay with him and his mom.shes a sick woman so he needed to live there to help take care of here.thats what he told me anyway.i held my son in my arms and didnt want to let go.but all the fighting in the street was traumatizing.so i left and this guy turned out to be the craziest man i ever met.he showed his true colors very fast.he was crazy jealous i couldnt talk to my sons father without a huge fight and when i realized he was a real abusive man i tried to leave he actually cut himself so bad he needed 12 staples in his arm.he lied and told the hospital someone did that to him.after that he tried to be so sweet with me but honestly i was afraid to bring my son around him.he wouldnt leave my side for a second he would tell me things like he would take his life if i left or mine and things like that.i had a court date about custody of my son on the way to court he thought he was going to loose me he ran in front of a bus.imagine i was in aposition of a man thats sick and obsessed with me.well imagine i have been dealing with this man for over 4 years i really dont know how i lasted this long.my son wouldnt talk to me for r years he only recently started writing me.he wants to see me and i am dying to see him.i cry myself to sleep every night since the day i was thrown out.i wish every day that i could go back 5 years.this man has put me through hell since i met him.i recently started saving some money and putting my important papers on the side and tryingbto reach out and see what kind of help i can get.i pray everyday god will answer my prayers and bring my son and i back together.i went threw ovarian cancer twice and almost died, i thank god i had my son so young i had to have a total hysterectomy when i was only 28.my son is turning 16 i missed out on 4 years of his life i cant miss anymore.please i need help.i feel so stuck i feel sorry for him his mother passed away almost a year ago and they were very close but now its even more abusive.he dont give me anytime alone he always wants my attention.he dont sleep.he is also metally ill.i only have alittle time here and there.i try to make phone calls and find out as much as i can.its really a nightmare.everyday i wish i could just wake up and this all have been a horrible nightmare.i apologize for pouring so much out.oh and how very stupidly i married this very unstable man.i need some advise please.i collect ssi for mental health issues and back problems.please if you could tell me how to get into housing or what my next move should be i just want a home so i could get my son back.i miss him so much.please help.thank you.

它伤害了深听到自己的你……我刚满21岁,我和我的男朋友已经有5年今年11月。我认识他以来,我15岁。他是我知道的,因为我父亲在我13岁的时候去世了。他是如此的甜蜜,最有趣的家伙(仍然是“好”的一天)。但是现在我不能忍受看着他……我发现自己想要伤害他一样坏如果不是比他伤害我。我知道我配不上这个,但是它是如此难以离开……我知道他是谁,我知道是什么让他哭,我知道关怀和情感的人他可以. .但我发誓就像他2个性… I despise the other. He hits me, slaps me, he has spit on me, drags me across rooms by my clothes, throws me against walls, runs at me, threatens me, calls me every name in the book. I try to ignore the things he says verbally to me but they ring in my head and when he speaks them my chest hurts just as bad as when he hits me. It's only been a year of this and I can't do it anymore. I cry almost everyday. People I know are growing up and maturing and I feel as if I'm going backwards... He makes me feel like a child and gets mad that I act like one! He makes absolutely no sense and I am never allowed to speak to tell him that. If I do, all hell breaks loose. I hate that this is my life. I ask God what I did to deserve this... Because I know leaving him is gonna put me into more of a depression. I hope I can find happiness as I am still young. Even for all of you that have been in this for way longer, I know there is someone out there for each of us that will show us and treat us with the love we deserve.

上帝保佑你/我们.....
不知何故....某处我们有! ! !找到力量和获得通过恐惧…离开!! ! !这些....有毒! ! !人。
上帝保佑我们所有人。

我已经结婚19年。他是53,我37岁。我跑的虐待(性)的继父和我丈夫结婚两周。直到10年前,真是太好了。他成为一个酒鬼,变得越来越差。没有人知道它。我是一个留在家里妈妈,(3个孩子15岁,16和18他是自闭症),我自主学习。我没有朋友,没有家人和孩子们除了对方。他所有的朋友都认为他是伟大的,我们是完美的家庭。他们都知道他“拯救”我从我的家人所以他们认为他挂着月亮。 He has never hit any of us, he is emotionally and mentally abusive to me and our children. He has a daughter that is 33 and she is perfect in every way (she's an alcoholic too and a teacher so she hides it well. The children and I want to leave but I have no access to any money as I have never worked, am not on the checking account, credit cards, the house and my car are in his name. I don't know what I am going to do but I know I have to do it fast. He shot my son and daughter's dogs because they played to rough with his dog (his princess) right in front of them.

首先,我想说谢谢分享你内心最想法,它确实帮助我阅读你的故事。我正在找一个出租的地方。我觉得像泄了气的皮球,士气低落,困惑,伤心和失落。我住过去的六年里,一个人没有情绪,除了愤怒,怨恨,操作和游戏。我不能说我内心最.....的想法,我不相信他他会嘲笑我,他会扭曲我的话和含义,然后告诉他的配偶……他不尊重我的感情。他乱发脾气,我失望和轻视我的孩子。他是迷人的,显示了同情、倾听和除了我,其他人都笑了。他操纵我认为我不值得,我做全职工作,我抚养孩子(不是他感谢上帝)。外面的世界他是个不错的家伙,他只不过是个麻烦给我做婊子养的。 He has done drugs for over thirty years, no-one knows. He thinks choking me and going to hit me is funny. This is also a story no-one knows. i am dirty on myself for giving him chance after chance. even last night he has this falseness about him trying to convince me he has changed, it is a cycle, it will last about one week, this time I am confident to leave, I feel like a failure but looking back i have tried every avenue possible. The ironic thing is that in a relationship it takes two people to make a success. I am scared, I am still breathing, the sun is shinning, I have beautiful children both boys, I have strength to get out. My feelings and emotions are real, They are mine and I will look after them........That's my promise to me.

我已经离开我2个月.....的施虐者虽然它是地狱与他要熟悉....当他不是口头情绪或身体的虐待,他可以旋转一分钱,说的东西让我觉得爱……但他不能通过…我认为他可以体面的最长的是最多2周....他退化然后道歉……告诉我回来,他会永远珍惜(他的话)我……老歌你管给我玩这就是他觉得对我……然而他打我,逼我,尿在我身上,世界上有没有犯规的话,我还是会回去我一定离开2年@ 50 - 60倍每次我回到没有我,我觉得他是很凄惨的他很抱歉.....但它从不呆好....现在我不在.... Now I feel every gamut of emotions ..... I'm sad...I'm heartbroken, I hate myself, I question my thoughts constantly... He would always call me angry... When after so many arguments I would finally say nothing ,then I'd get angry cause I felt like a fool believing him again..... He would say he should just lock me in a mental institution.....I was homeless piece of shit..... A whore... He'd go on for hours saying the same thing ... I'd hide on the ranch and hear him going on for hours.....why didn't I leave??? I left sometimes , sometimes he'd take my ranch key , and I'd be locked in... I had him arrested 3 times .... He took a plea deal probation, domestic violence classes, 12 months of AA.... I've been gone 2 months and he still had not started any conditions and 8 months passed.....
我最重要的一点是.....现在我很短的融合…我觉得所有的虐待和现在我自由我还是不能自己pre-him .....
我准备提前....我哭或者是短strangers@市场,加油站……我对自己完全不舒服……
亏本,这将通过.....祈祷
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我已经结婚32年自恋情绪,口头,有时身体虐待的男人。这已经很久了,我已经完全失去了我。我试着离开3次,每次回来的恐惧。我没有自尊,我还活着但不是生活。我有两只狗,是我活下去的理由。我全职工作了32年,但现在不能由于脑动脉瘤和中风,让我感到困。我还希望和contnually为自己寻找一个地方,我的狗,我可以负担得起。
阅读每个人的故事显然可以帮助我不觉得孤单。我希望我们每一个人找到真正的幸福。

我有一个非常糟糕的婚姻没有感情,我是口头谩骂我的丈夫。我对他是可怕的,我不怪他失去他对我的爱。我发现我是双相障碍,创伤后应激障碍和边缘型人格障碍。我继续药物但它花了一段时间才找到正确的和合适的剂量。我还在研究这个,试图得到治疗。我分开时开始约会一个男人,他对我很好的。他深情,会给我买花,为我做饭,只显示一百万年他关心的方式。我认为他对我来说是惊人的和完善的。几个月他在我家,我们都很醉。我不记得是什么说但我们开始争论,他生气了,扔在地板上的玻璃都碎了。 I told him to leave. I had to repeat it over and over and he would not. He stood in my doorway and said he didn't have to and he'd leave when he was ready to. I was so angry I slapped him across the face. He reached out and pushed me by my cheek and shoved me back. My neck twisted and I went flying back and fell and slid in broken glass and hit my head on the floor. I was afraid of him after that but he said it was self defence because I laid my hands on him first. He then started trying to win me back by being the man I knew before and I figured it was an isolated incident. Even still, something in my gut said it wasn't right and I dumped him every month but we always got back together because by then I was all messed up thinking he loved me more than anyone had and I couldn't let that go for whatever reason. We moved in together a year later when I sold my house because I was desperate for somewhere to live and had no job so a very limited amount of money to pay bills. Within one month he changed completely like he knew he had me and now his real side came out. I dumped him within that first month and started sleeping in another room. For the past 8 months I have gone from hating him to wanting to rekindle something to being scared of him to wanting to kill myself. I'm all over the place and my mental illnesses do not help. He would make comments like how he thought we should live together forever even if we weren't a couple because he loved my company. Then he would accuse me of having cheated on him while we were together and that he always loved me more than I loved him. He calls me psycho and self-absorbed, assumes I'm not on my meds or that I'm drunk when I come home late from visiting a friend. He expects to know who I'm going out with and when I will be home, or to text him if I will be late and if I don't he waits up for me and gets angry when I come home. He is possessive, controlling, and mentally/emotionally abusive all the time. I feel like I live in a cage and he's not even my boyfriend anymore. We had another incident of physical abuse when he was belittling me and trying to get me so upset to the point I got angry and hit him, which "in self defence" he took as an opportunity to shove me across the kitchen into the lower cabinets. He called the cops on me that time because he figured he should do it before I did. I have been trying to fight back and not let him run my life but sometimes I have such bad anxiety and am just too afraid of his moods that I end up not doing anything. I barely smile or laugh. I don't feel good inside and I cry every day. This is so draining. I recently got a new apartment and am trying to move in but he is once again making life hell and I don't even have the energy to pack a box let alone put it in my car and take it to the new place. I need to get out and to safety away from him and live my own life but I'm scared. I'm afraid to be alone and be a part-time single mom with no job and I have no idea how I'm going to make it work without a support system. I've been on a wait list for therapy for over 3 months. Sometimes I feel like I'm such a waste of space and he's right about me being trash. Other times I fight these thoughts but they never quite go away. This is the hardest thing I've ever gone through and I used to be beat by my dad, I was raped multiple times as a teenager, I was abused by boyfriends etc. I have so much trauma but this one has destroyed me to my core. I don't think I will ever be able to get past this but it is really comforting to read other comments and know that people in similar or worse situations have fought and won their battles. So thank you for giving me some hope.