陷入虐待关系？
陷入虐待关系的人会听到，“你比这好多了!”你为什么要留下来?”我知道我比我的经验更好。我知道我不应该被那样对待。然而，当有人向我指出这一点时，我想要咬紧牙关坚持下去。
我知道我比他对待我的方式好，但我认为施虐者也比他的行为方式好。我认为我们同样受到了伤害。我以为我们都被困在一段虐待关系中。
我以为我们在一起这两个被困在虐待关系中
我想他一定非常痛苦，才会用这种方式伤害我——对我说那些话，假装他是真心的，用手来背他的话。我以为他和我都很痛苦。
我应该得到更好的待遇，但他和我是一样的。他应该有机会找到幸福。他值得爱、友善、尊重……真爱。他应得的我的爱(尽管给予我不尊重和憎恨)因为我们是一样的。
当有人说我比他强时，我像一条出击的蛇一样退缩了。这种逻辑毫无道理。我怎么可能比我等于什么?他们，那些鼓励我离开虐待我的人，成了我的敌人。
正如我开始将我的施虐者叙述对我的新敌人的伟大事物，我们的蜜月期更好地获得了优先事项。我加强了自己为什么我呆就像我试图说服我的敌人一样。我的逻辑和敌人的不一样。我觉得我所做的一切都合情合理。放弃他就意味着放弃我。
我是个好人，却陷入了一段虐待关系
我忠诚，爱，愿意通过艰难的斑点强壮。我可以看到施虐者的善良的糟糕。我不仅幸存下来，而且把他拉起来他内心充满了仇恨。我欠因为我答应过他我永远不会离开他。我承诺爱，尊重，珍惜;而不是使用、扭转和嘲笑。
我的忠诚感和信仰他和我等于（这两种影响洗脑）让我陷入虐待关系中。我留下来，因为我觉得要留下表明背叛了我是谁。施虐者已经在很多方面背叛了我。我不想背叛你我所以我对他保持忠诚。囿于我是谁尽可能多的他对我做了什么在那之后的近20年里，我一直被困在一段受虐待的关系中。
当我被困在我的虐待关系中时，我听错了
似乎在我结婚的日子里，我说的是一种与我的家人和朋友不同的语言。当他们告诉我，我应该得到更好的，并提供了一条出路时，我没有听到他们想让我听到的。我听到“我不再认识你了。你是一团糟。你需要帮助。你做错了。你有点不对劲。”
我保证他们不是这个意思。然而，我想象着自己今天也会对家暴受害者说同样善意的话。我想让他们看到我在他们身上看到的东西。但我说的不是他们的语言。我是他们的敌人。
APA参考
Jo, K.(2012年3月23日)。陷入虐待关系？, HealthyPlace。2021年5月13日，从//www.lharmeroult.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2012/03/trapped-in-an-abusive-relationship获取
作者:Kellie Jo Holly
嗨Keniada,
我为你迈出了离开虐待关系的第一步而鼓掌!我鼓励你阅读这些博客以获得建议和支持，但也要向专业人士寻求帮助。这里有一些资源可以帮助你开始这个过程://www.lharmeroult.com/otht-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-refer ...
祝你爱情和好运，珍
嗨。从十几岁到现在，我一直受到父母在精神上和精神上的虐待。我在夜店被下药，被说唱我在公寓的水泥地上醒来。我19岁的时候，经历了一段虐待的感情。我回到家，被我妈骂了一顿我喝了一整瓶感冒药然后精神紧张地去上班就像他们发现我昏倒在浴室里一样。我现在处于另一段口头上，精神上和情感上都受到虐待的婚姻中。我没有家人，也没有帮手，我在痛苦中病了16个月。当我19岁的时候，我被绑架，被迫拍摄性视频，如果我离开就被强奸，他说他会杀了我。我上一任丈夫一直虐待他，三年后和一个首席检察官离婚了。我也经历过无数次虐待关系。 My parents won't help they kicked me out for no reason I'm their only daughter. I need help I live in Tennesse is their ways to get help? God bless you. If u are in a marriage witg a non beleiver the Bible says if your in good company stay married if your in bad company leave. I am a firm believer if u are being abused and they won't change leave, the bible says so. I cry I have had panic attacks for 5 months since I have been here. He threatens to kick me out when he doesn't get what he wants. We got in a bad fight and he was going to call the cops I did nothing wrong I got in my car and fled and then he said he was going to kill himself. He shot the gun I was terrified . Went outside he didn't do it. His family sides with him . I'm alone sick no money no family. He is 46 he yells at his mom, who gives him lunch money washes his clothes lays them out, and gives him his meds. Likes is food perfect. And the icing on the cake his mom cut his steak for him for his lunch! I'm so sick I need help with showers and driving. He has problems, hes going to counseling to satisfy me. No go for yourself. I am a devout Godly woman, if I did not have Jesus, I will loose it. For the last 5 months I told him to stop or I will be in the hospital. I started cutting at 15 on lists, then my First husband I took a box cutter and cut my arms and legs. I tried to commit suicide 10 times. This man I married on FaceTime he seemed layed back and kind and loved Jesus, he's not even saved he lied. We stay with his family. He was married and lived next door for 6 years she left in the nite why? And one year on his own so he has lived away from parents for 7 years he's 46. I had to work and have an apt, my parents helped some but never their when you need them. We started to go to church I found one he was jelous cause I praised Jesus and sacrificed a praise , he says why don't u sacrifice for me. I'm Gods child annoited through my praise 5 people gave a testimony how I blesses them and how to get out of religiosity. I was humbled it was Jesus, the glory goes to God. God bless and thank u. If anyone knows of help or how I could obtain money. God bless
嗨,每个人,
我既惊讶又惊讶我们有这么多人。我理解你们所有人和你们的处境。我唯一的建议是....我自己也处在一个紧张的处境中，所以我对自己说的很多话都打折扣。但在与这些麻烦的关系中。要求改变，更多的意见，尊重，欣赏和改变。如果他们拒绝，永远不要尝试，不要承认他们缺乏努力，继续他们的方式。把F提出来。物流，财务和可行性都可以解决，需求满足在北美社会，至少如果你选择。不要抱怨，但如果你有错也不要否认。 If so, over come them, master & own them. Then you have grown & taken your personal power back. Its not about a fight & winning. Its about being you & the responcible, capable, unique, diverse, adaptable, best mother F'ing parent you could possible be. Im not a big fan of cutting other parents out of childrens lives as they are needed, unless they are needed out. some do for sure. but thats case per case. God speed & hold true to your beliefs & morals. We all knew better, but refused to accept the reality of our situations. hang in there until change is futile & your growth is ripe & ready. Much love fellow earthlings!
我和他在一起11年了。我们一起有孩子。我很担心他会把我当成坏人，然后失去孩子们。我不认为我的选择总是正确的。他甚至能把最小的东西弯曲成可怕的东西。所以我才不想离开他。我的女儿7岁，双胞胎。我担心女孩们最终会认为他所做的是正常的。他的母亲也会辱骂他。她比我差十倍还背着我跟别人说话。 I hate all of this. I wish I could leave. My family supports him :/
停止战斗。事实上，停止与施虐者和你内心的声音的斗争。读://www.lharmeroult.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2013/12/fighting-for-peace/
我希望它能有所帮助。
通过Facebook，我遇到了我的一个老朋友。我发现她和一个虐待狂同居了7-8年。他卖掉了她的车，由于严重的车祸伤害和健康问题，经济困难，她无法离开。我担心她的安危。他观察她的一举一动，脾气很坏。我已经提出让她和我一起住，但她似乎不愿意离开。在事态发展到危险程度之前，我该怎么说或怎么做才能救她?她表示她经常想出去，但因为钱的原因不能去，又无处可去......
我和这个家伙在一起一年多了.....自从我们见面以来，他一直想要孩子，最后一年之后，他让我怀孕了。我担心的是，没有尊重存在的关系.....他对我就像他是我爸爸一样....我不能再做我自己.....我always feel sad but on the other side I can't be without him....now that I'm pregnant I feel so confused I think about it like this.....if he didn't treat right and we had no kids what makes me think he is gonna change now that we are expecting a child ....he has always had a bad temper......I think I'm in a abusive relationship and I just don't want to see it...and this is killing me
[…)我吗?近两年来，她从一段可怕的虐待关系中恢复过来，成为一个单身母亲，我一直坐在那里听她说话。而且我也看到她每次评价都是正确的。
[…)我吗?近两年来，她从一段可怕的虐待关系中恢复过来，成为一个单身母亲，我一直坐在那里听她说话。而且我也看到她每次评价都是正确的。
我真的尊重并欣赏你的博客！我们正在努力通过电影提高与虐待关系的认识。你可以在这里看看http://www.facebook.com/BLAMEfilm如果您有兴趣了解更多的信息，请发邮件给我们。
我也很高兴我发现了这个网站，我结婚才4年，而且有一个儿子，但是语言虐待，它只是....精疲力尽,我听到的故事,帮助每个人都提供了,但是它太困难,我有家庭附近,但是我没有钱,和试图让我自己,我的儿子和我们的物品是很困难的,加上我为我的丈夫感到糟糕,不知为何,我的错,但是他说一切都是我的错,所以什么1件事,我知道我需要帮助,我就是不能得到它，我等不及要离开。
我非常高兴我找到了你的博客。我和一个爱说脏话的人一起生活了将近25年。我住的地方离任何亲戚都至少有600英里，所以简单的离开不是答案。我得制定一个计划。虽然很难，但我必须这么做。我得走了，为了保持清醒。我下周就要开始心理咨询了。也许我要花一年的时间，但我必须制定一个坚实的目标并坚持下去。