双相情感障碍和鬼影:这是一个大问题

我可以原谅你生病，但我不能原谅你无视病情，毁掉别人的生活只为让自己好过一点。你一点也不公平，你一直很残忍，我永远也不理解，也不想这么做。我受够了伤害，你现在得忍受了，我这辈子受的苦够多了，该我自由了。

意识和沟通大有帮助!你做得很好，继续。

我和我的前未婚夫在一起。年。我们从一开始就住在一起，我和共同的朋友住在一起，每个人都经常出去玩，在我搬出去和他住在一起后，我试图逃离那个疯狂的、虐待我的家庭。他是我的支柱，他在经济上完全支持我，等等。他经常消失不见所有人，包括家人。我会假装离开他，把我的东西搬走，然后我就联系不上他让他回去了。当我回去的时候，我花了大约一个星期的时间让他平静下来，因为他真的很激动，完全一团糟。有一次他说"你为什么不早点来?"三年前，我们在找公寓的时候，我最可怕的噩梦发生了。我看着我的父母，我们在吵架，他完全消失了。 During the three years, he did go to therapy once and then ghosted her too. He moved to another state also. I feel so helpless. I've never been more sad about anything or felt more like nobody understands. My therapist says nobody CAN tell me if he's coming back or not as no one else was there. I feel so alone and scared. That feels kind of nice to get it out though I have major trauma response from this (and from before this) and I ask that people be sensitive.

我和我男朋友交往五年了。我为他工作。我注意到一些奇怪的事情，比如他和我保持距离，他花了很长时间才相信我。我们的爱随着时间而增长。他第一次屏蔽我是在我辞职的时候，因为我的同事发现我和他在一起后，一直欺负我。持续了36天。他十年前做了肾移植手术，他告诉我他当时非常暴躁。现在他又有了一个孩子，这对每个人来说都是极大的压力。他吃了18片。他说话又快又多，他非常情绪化，外出买了3家店(移植后4周)，他不睡觉——患有轻躁狂。 This is the first time I realize what is going on with him. He always said he cannot have a relationship- I thought he kept me at arms length because of his kidney problems, but I think he is Bpd. Just guessing. I have been under tremendous stress, lost my nephew last year over a long awful suffering, which destroyed my family, 2 job losses, my dog, Bella is dying & I know i have to take her. I am stressing financially. He has blocked me, now during his manic phase. Told me a female colleague is driving him around the country. And said "I should bugger off" When I phone he screams he will block me, we can only whatsapp. I am so down, I don't know how to pick myself up. He' s been under such stress, for years, worrying about surviving. So i understand & these pills he has to take, to stop his kidney from rejecting- i wish i knew long ago that he might be bipolar, I would have been better prepared. I supported him, went through bullying, him not telling his children and ex about me. His ex donated the kidney. I thought we were about to have a future, now, after the long struggle. Instead everything is falling & I have no one to speak to - don't feel like it even helps. I have to find work - just all too much. I want him to be ok and find happiness, I wish I could just speak to him. I also freaked out, thinking he is messing around with this other woman, that made him angry, that is why he blocked me. I read through these comments and I see I am not alone, maybe they just cannot deal with emotions.

我以为我有一个亲密的，最好的朋友。她患有躁郁症，而我一直在与抑郁症作斗争。我们已经是二十年的朋友了。今年1月，她说她想要远离我，因为她被生活和许多责任压得喘不过气来。我不知道这是否是真正的原因。我们两个半月没说话了。我尽量尊重她对空间的需要，但她绝对不会以任何方式和我交流。我们生活在两个不同的州，但我们付出了努力和爱来维持这段关系。她有一个四岁的女儿，我觉得和她很亲近，就像她是我的孙女一样。我的朋友不愿以任何方式帮助我和她的女儿保持联系。 It feels very selfish from my end. I feel like all she cares about is her own needs and that she wont be there for me if I go through a hard time. She has not consideration for how her actions are affecting me. I have no idea if she has completely walked away from me as a friend or not. It seems very insensitive to me, to cut me out of her life.

我的伴侣三次被诊断为躁郁症，但他拒绝接受诊断。每一集我都陪在他身边，但为了安全起见，我不得不搬到自己的地方，与他保持一定距离。然而，我已经一遍又一遍地告诉他，我希望我们的关系继续下去，我会在这里陪着他。他经常封锁我，好几天甚至好几周都不接我的电话和短信。这太伤人了!我开始感到非常没有安全感，自己也很沮丧。我担心他已经开始新生活了，等等。我不知道还能做什么来支持他因为当我们之间的关系很好时，这种事就会发生。

我觉得我的男性闺蜜在和我吵了一架后对我“隐神”了，我觉得他可能有躁郁症。
在过去的6个月里，我们变得异常亲密，彼此有着深厚的联系，无话不谈。我们几乎形影不离，每个人都说我们是很好的一对，等等。最后我爱上了他，但不幸的是，他对我没有感觉，就在那时，一切都开始走下坡路。起初，因为被拒绝而受到伤害，我不想再和他做朋友了，但他坚持和我做朋友，不想让我走。我们最终恢复了交谈，但再也不一样了——我们经常争吵，一开始我还以为是我的错。我会无意中评论他做的每一件有问题的事情，这是很多的，他会因为他的防御本性而接近我。
我们最终谈了谈，把问题解决了，我决定不让我的情绪左右自己，我不再对他粗鲁。话虽如此，在过去的一周里自从我们开始争吵之后他变得越来越亢奋，说话的方式很有攻击性而且很容易生气。尽管我不再激怒他，也不再说一些被认为是粗鲁的话，但他还是不断地嘲笑我说的话，并在我说话的时候让我闭嘴。为了平静起见，我让它过去了，没有报复，只是忍受了整个星期，但它伤害了我的内心。除此之外，他还经常惹恼我，让我筋疲力尽，以至于有时我宁愿远离他。
几天前，他的情绪突然变了，他安静下来，说那是因为他累了。他也避免和我说话，而是和别人说话，这真的很伤害我的感情，因为我很喜欢他，我忍不住想是不是我做了什么让他不高兴的事。当我问他是否还好时，他说他只是情绪波动，没有什么能帮助他，即使是他每周参加的心理治疗也无济于事。他说那只是正常的，但显然在他的案子里不是。
昨天，我对他整个星期对我的态度感到很受伤，我不觉得和他谈这件事有什么意义，因为我已经这么做了好几次，但一切都没有改变。我在群聊里说了几句刻薄的话，实际上每个人都对他很粗鲁，他决定离开群聊和私人信息，说他试图和我保持冷静，但我做得太过了，我应该停止给他发信息。记住，在群聊中至少有3个人对他也很粗鲁，与其说是粗鲁，不如说是开玩笑，但我是他唯一生气的人。我试图解释我的观点，但无济于事，他完全无视我说的话，说在他为我做了那么多之后，我就是这样做的，我所做的一切都是为了伤害他，他现在想把自己放在第一位，我应该闭嘴，不要再给他发垃圾信息。他还说我是进步的敌人，说当他高兴、做得很好的时候，我就来让他难过。
然后今天，我反思了发生的事情，意识到我一直很粗鲁，我非常想解决问题，尽管他也伤害了我的感情，所以我给他打电话，他接了，但什么也没说，所以我挂了电话，又打了几次，他拒绝了。他还忽略了我发给他的所有信息。我决定把我的伤痛放在一边来解决问题但他就是不回应，我开始怀疑他有躁郁症，他在消失我。
我注意到他经常情绪波动，不是亢奋就是情绪低落。我想，当我们经常争吵时，他出现了轻度狂躁症而昨天的事情导致他抑郁了这都怪我。他没有确诊，所以我不能确定，但他有抑郁和躁郁症的家族史，所以他很容易得这种病，而且他表现出了很多迹象，很难想象他不是这样。
我知道我应该参选，说实话我有过参选的机会，但我太爱他了，不能让他离开。可悲的是，我不知道他还会不会再理我。我觉得我做的事还不足以让我被神隐，我在想他的躁郁症能不能解释这一切。

我男朋友最近不和我说话了，想结束这段关系。我们在一起7个月了。他封锁了我，不回应我。我爱他，也知道他爱我，这是非常艰难的，伤害200%已经有几天了，他说他没有精力维持一段关系。他还说他的生活中有很多事情要做，没有时间。我只想让他跟我说话，让一切都好起来。

很高兴看到这篇文章，对评论里的人表示抱歉。我非常爱一个我过去在网上认识的人，在封锁期间，我们非常亲密(从未感觉如此亲密)了4-5个月。尽管我们激情四射，亲密无间，但我并不确定我们是否合得来。我认为这伤害了他，尽管这不是针对他个人的，而且我们之间大部分时间看起来都很好。最后，在一次小小的争吵之后，他挂了我的电话，伤心了好几个星期，然后给我发了一封糟糕的、伤人的电子邮件。他告诉我他患有自闭症倦怠症(他有躁郁症)，所以我试着和他保持联系，支持他。但他在那封邮件里以最糟糕的方式把我给打断了。我还没有得到一个合理的解释，就在这件事发生之前，他看起来很好。他以前对我一直很好。我认为他的母亲对他有负面影响，影响他不让我知道(我所听到的)。 It's been almost 3 months since he last video called me and 2.5 months since he sent that email. The first two months since the email were extremely hard. Felt so devastated. Now am doing better but I still want a conversation with him. He told me he'd never speak to me again but idk how seriously I can take that since he was really ill when he said it. It doesn't seem healthy to just cut off with a cruel message and no explanation. I can only put it down to his bipolar disorder. I hope he's doing okay.

我妻子四周前失踪了这是我们结婚五年/七年以来的第一次。我相信很多年前她被诊断出患有躁郁症。我很后悔没有了解这些迹象，也没有采取更多措施鼓励进行精神病学评估(我们偶尔会谈论这个问题，但肯定是把它留在了忙碌的生活中)。看完这篇博客和所有的回应，我感到更加害怕。这里写的很多东西听起来都像她。我非常想找到她，但她不跟任何人说话。

我还没有被正式诊断为双相情感障碍，只是一种“未指明的情绪障碍”，但我妈妈患有这种疾病，我也有家族史。我有很多症状，随着年龄的增长，症状越来越严重。有人告诉我，我有情绪波动，甚至有人告诉我，他们认为我有边缘性人格障碍，但我已经挣扎了一段时间，我从“还好”到讨厌自己，想死，或者只是断开/孤立。我以前和别人在一起过，比如在学校，我和我的朋友还有其他年级的同学一起坐在图书馆里，大部分时间我都在休息。当我的朋友问我为什么我会说“我在想某件事或者我在试图弄清楚某件事”，我也经历过强迫性说谎，我不知道如何停止。这对我来说是一件很自然的事情，我讨厌我自己，我总是和朋友们消失，我要花几天时间给我妈妈回信，我总是为此道歉，我一直这样做，我感觉很糟糕。我离开了以前的学校，我告诉我的朋友们我不会让他们离开，这基本上是我无意中做的。我一直都很忙，有几天我没有回复我的一个朋友，但已经好几个星期了，我不知道该跟他们说什么，因为我说什么都不会让情况好转。有些日子我做得很好，我觉得很开心，有时精力充沛，就像我有能量一样。这种情况已经发生了好几年了，我只是随机地觉得自己精力充沛，但有时我会犯错误或做错什么事，我感觉我应该死了。 I take a mood stabilizer but it doesnt help it just makes me feel empty sometimes and I dont want to lie to my friends about why i didnt respond. I miss them so much I just dont know what to say and I feel like its too late for me. I've also gone from trying to do anything I can to stay alive or not doing things so that I wouldnt die or just having anxiety around death and then other times I feel like I deserve to die because of things I've done. Ive been taking meds for years and I go to therapy once a week. I just lie to my therapist not completely but mostly I do so everyone thinks Im okay so I dont have to go to the hospital again I just dont know what to do and I sometimes feel like some people are better off without me

我其实是双性恋，当我感到被拒绝的时候，我会变得狂躁，我打了上千次电话，我相信没有发生的事情，我让它看起来像真的，但我最终破坏了这段关系，他最终没有解释就阻止了我

我需要你的帮助。我儿子有躁郁症，一直躲着我。已经一年没联系了。我该怎么办呢?我很爱他。请帮助!

我和一个变性人约会了一个半月。一开始一切都很好，但他知道我要搬回我的国家，所以我告诉他我只是想享受我们所拥有的。我记得我划定了界限，解释了沟通对我有多重要，我需要一个有耐心的人，因为我正在处理创伤。他似乎可以理解，告诉我他在沟通方面是多么的优秀和强大。
刚开始我见到他时，他总是精力充沛，
直到我在这里的最后几天，他都在做计划，甚至想让我见他的朋友等等。
后来他变得越来越冷，越来越累，直到有一天他告诉我他患有躁郁症，最近才开始吃药。
他告诉我他很好，只是需要时间重新适应。我对双性恋一无所知，那也是我第一次和跨性别者约会，但我很高兴他能坦然地和我分享这些，并告诉他我很高兴他能照顾好自己，无论发生什么，我都会支持他。
我问了很多次是否一切都好，说我不想多想任何事情，并想确保我们之间有沟通，但他总是说一切都好，而不问我的感受。
有几次他想和我见面，因为他知道我的日程安排有多忙，当我有时间和他见面时，他就会在最后一分钟找借口不去。
上次他发短信找借口的时候，我告诉他我很抱歉，但这样已经没用了。
我希望他能试着弥补，试着解决这个问题，因为在那之前我告诉他这没关系，但要求他不要再这样做了，只是谈谈。我发完信息后，他就消失了，避免与我对抗，也避免任何形式的对话。他没有阻止我，因为几天后，我试图联系他，向他解释我的想法，告诉他，即使我很快就会离开，我也很在乎他，但就这样凭空消失是不对的，特别是当他知道沟通对我来说有多重要的时候。即使在我告诉他我的感受，我想要见他或和他说话之后，他也没有回答我。
我甚至不明白我是否在乎这一点，我觉得自己很愚蠢，因为我信任他，和我分享了那么多事情……我试着告诉自己他只是经历了很多事情，但我无法接受他根本无法交流的事实....

我一直在试图弄清楚我和那个一直在约会的家伙到底发生了什么——直到上周，我还在想是不是他就是我的另一半。我们约会了几个月，一切都很顺利，我想。我们进展得很慢，但我知道他已经从一段艰难的关系中走出来了，而且在前一段婚姻中还生了两个孩子。我们关系很好，他总是非常体贴周到。他每天都给我发信息，对我的工作很感兴趣等等。我两周前的一个晚上见过他，然后就。他不再发信息，不再回复。我发短信问他最近怎么样，他说很忙。我知道这看起来不对，所以我打电话给他，他坚持说一切都好。第二天他给我发了条短信，说他不得不取消我们第二天晚上的计划，因为他太忙了，没有时间约会。 Although I responded that I was extremely hurt he would end things over text, and not even call, he said that he was sorry but still didn't call. At some point my friend (not at my prompting) urged him to call me b/c she could tell how distressed I was by the lack of closure. He said something like ok, but did not. I can't make heads or tails of it. Did I do something? did he have something going on I didn't know about? I did notice he would get obsessive about various subjects, and he admitted it was a thing for him. He also mentioned taking prozac at one point. Could there be much more going on than I knew?

对我来说，最难的是不知道。我们已经约会5个月了，而他在过去的6天里对我视而不见。他几个月前告诉我他有抑郁症和血压，以前吃过欣百达。我注意到他会对政治问题高度关注，肯定有点偏执。但这些都不是可怕的警告。他这几个月过得很艰难，在一场火灾中失去了工作，一直在苦苦挣扎。我们大概一个月才见一次面因为发生了那么多事，而且他住的地方离我只有几个小时的路程。我觉得很难知道这是不是他需要空间因为他有那么多事要做。他有一段时间有点害怕，但之后我们度过了一个充满激情和情感的周末他告诉了我所有正确的事情。几天后，他因为工作压力太大，就没回我短信。 This was just so out of character, that I thought he must have broken his phone , or gotten hurt . We literally text all the time , for hours . I couldn’t believe that the very same man who had shared so much with me and been so vulnerable with me would just walk away. Honestly I’m a bit heart broken and so lost and confused. Part of me thinks he just needs some time to sort things out, but the longer it gets without hearing from him , I just think he’s gone . So then of course , I doubt my ability to know someone . We have had such an connection on every level . I feel very taken advantage of . Because we literally talked all the time about the future .
我想我只是想决定，我是不是生气了然后告诉他我有多受伤，这样可能会把他推开。还是给他空间，希望他回来，在他回来之前不联系他。这尤其困难，因为他是我4年前结束23年婚姻后真正约会的第一个人。之后再谈重大的信任问题!

我对你们每一个人都有同感。我和一个男人交往了3个月，每隔5-6周我就会消失。没有任何迹象，也没有任何解释。他很早就告诉我他患有躁郁症，我说我仍然想和他在一起，陪在他身边。
我跟他说过很多次，无论好坏，我都会在这里。当我们在一起的时候，一切都很好。他告诉我他有多喜欢我，他和我有多亲近，他有多感激我。
但他消失了3-4周，不给我发信息，不回我，甚至不让我知道他没事。我告诉他，如果他需要时间，没关系，但每次发生这种事，我都担心得要命。我只想知道他还活着而不是死在某个沟里。
我真的很喜欢他所以我才忍了下来。但最让我烦恼的是，如果我需要他，他却不在我身边。如果我去了医院，感觉不舒服或真的很挣扎，他不会在意的，因为他在一个黑暗的地方，忽略了世界上其他的一切。
我真的不知道该怎么办了。我现在正在第二季的第四周，他消失了。我想我还是等他回来再跟他谈吧

结婚30年了。丈夫是今年确诊的。他把我消失了，我们住在同一个房子里。已经10年了。我只是在照顾家里的东西和孩子，我想等孩子们都离开了家，我们要么就分开，要么就像以前一样住在一起。吃药后他好多了，但鬼影还是会发生。我提醒他，无论你愿不愿意，我都在这里。

我男朋友有躁郁症，而且自我治疗。他一直把在网上买的东西灌在舌头底下。这并不理想，但这似乎确实对他有帮助，我当时的想法是，如果有帮助，我就接受。整个夏天，他开始滑向过去的消极行为，当他狂躁时，他变得刻薄和刻薄。他挑剔我的一言一行，批评我，骂我。几周前，他开始去精神科医生那里接受实验性氯胺酮治疗。在此之前，他痴迷于减肥和禁食。他减了20磅，开始每周一次禁食48到72小时。他总是在食物上羞辱我，试图让我达到他的节食水平。然后他在混合物中加入氯胺酮，让人无法忍受，一直都很刻薄。 Last week I picked him up from an appointment and he picked a fight with me, said a bunch of hurtful things and broke up with me. I went to his house and gathered my things and left. We didn’t talk all week. He sent me a message that night reminding of an obligation I had in the morning. I didn’t respond and I didn’t make the obligation either. I ran into him a few times that week at work (yes we work at the same company so there’s that) the first time we shared an elevator and made pleasant small talk. After I felt ashamed for even being nice to him after how he treated me so the next few times I just ignored him altogether. He messaged me on fb that night and said he missed me and wished I’d come over for some jalapeño poppers he’d made. Then the next day we chatted and he seemed like he was having regret and was still even considering coming on my trip for my bday in October. I tried to reach out the next day but he ignored me. Then I had asked about a couple of things I forgot to grab from his house, I said I’d leave my car unlocked and he could just leave them in my car at work l. That way if he didn’t want to talk he didn’t have to. Days went by and nothing. No returner stuff and no response. I waited a few more days to give him space then I messaged him again. This time on fb messenger so I could at least see if he was reading my messages. I said if he needs more time let me know. If it’s done and he doesn’t want to talk again at least let me know and return my things but either way please don’t leave me hanging. I’ve done nothing to deserve that. Read the message but no response. Even fb says we are still “in a relationship” he hasn’t told his family whom I’m close to and I wanted to give him the opportunity to either figure it out and or tell them first. He has had a history or being in w relationship and then ghosting her. I don’t know what this is or what he wants. I feel like I’m going crazy and not sure what to do

我已经被完全忽视了3个月。阅读这篇文章和每个人的评论对我真的有帮助。结婚14年后离婚。痛苦的。谢谢大家。

我需要帮助。我分不清我男朋友到底是躁郁症还是混蛋。我们已经约会3个月了。刚开始的几周，他非常棒，几乎是没日没夜地给我发短信。总是想和我见面，但一个月后，他突然消失了5天，然后没有解释就又出现了。我原谅了他，我们继续向前走但正好一个月后他又来找我了。他会有情绪波动的迹象。他每24-36小时吃一次。他几乎每天都做噩梦。我们之间没有问题，也没有争吵。 Hes calling me baby one day and then a few hours later he just disappeared. Its been 10 days and ive heard nothing back from him. He posted once on his snapchat story and he knows i can see it but he didnt even care. Idk if im making excuses for him or this is really his disorder.

我和一个患有躁郁症的人有过一段同居恋情。我们在一起4年了，感情就像坐过山车一样。她是我遇到的第一个患有双相情感障碍的人，所以我一时毫无头绪。在我们开始交往几个月后，我才开始意识到她的情绪稳定性出了问题，因为她真的很擅长隐藏自己的情绪。我后来开始注意到她的狂躁，充满活力的发作和抑郁发作，但我一直认为这是她性格的一部分，因为她过去与家庭的创伤和过去与前男友的关系。她曾告诉我，她和父母的关系破裂是她在18岁时搬出去的原因。我认识她的时候她20岁，我21岁，那时我的父母笃信宗教，我想逃离他们，所以我抓住机会和她住在一起。我爱上了她的甜美，爱，善良和真诚的性格。我总是忽略了她野蛮的一面，那是易怒的言语谩骂，控制欲强，可恨，充满了不必要的抱怨。大约在我们同居半年后，我意识到她的情感个性是一种精神疾病，双相情感障碍。 Upon realizing this i was already emotionally invested and had told her that i would try to always be commited to understanding her bipolar disorder. Our whole relationship has been respectfully great. We had spent almost everyday together working multiple jobs for the past 4 years to make ends meet paying the bills and rent. We would always get stoned and go on dinner dates. She would go out of her way to do things for me as she was full of surprises on our monthsaries. She would always assure our relationship and would tell me I was the one she loved the most. She was quite responsible always cooking,cleaning, doing laundry, etc. I've seen her struggle with her depressive epsiodes and i've always comforted her with hugs and kisses. Like any other relationships we've had really bad arguments, but we both maturely always manage to come to an agreement and accept our faults. 4 years into the relationship i really believed that she was a person that i could have a future with and eventually get married. Then came a turning point to our relationship. We both started working at a marijuana grow op and she had started smoking excessively and drank energy drinks every single day for a month straight. I believe the high amount of caffeine worsened her anxiety and ability to cope through her mood swings. She had also met a new co-worker that i have noticed they have gotten uncomfortably close and his intentions were clear that he likes her. I've confronted her about and she claims that they are nothing more than friends. I've even caught her texting him it was nothing sexual but she tried to hide his phone number by saving it under her girlfriend's name. Her excuse was so i dont get butt hurt about it. After work she would be emotionally exhausted and she slowly started to drift away from me. I also had a gut feeling that she caught feelings for this other coworker of ours. We both ended up getting laid off from the job and thats when she was a complete emotiotional wreck. Out of nowhere, out of the god damn blue she was saying she needed space to be alone and that she was feeling alot of pain and hurt inside and she could no longer give me love and that its not my fault. She brought up how she wanted to move back with her abusive parents and that we give eachother space for a month for her to better herself, which made no sense at all. I have been the one supporting her and basically being her therapist for 4 years. Anyways she proposed that we give eachother space for a month and not talk to eachother at all and after she gets to decide if she was better enough to keep our relationship going. I had a gut feeling that she wanted to GHOST me after that one month. So i confronted her about this "space" she wanted and what her intentions were and she literally told me that our relationship is coming to an end. Im 25 years old now , scratching my head asking myself what did i get myself into.